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AITA, gf mad at me bc I said I wouldn’t have sex until at least 1 year of dating
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Anonymous 1d

You are allowed to have that boundary 1000%. I think it would also help if you talked with her about it though.

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Anonymous 1d

Not the asshole. You can absolutely put that boundary down. Don’t have sex if you don’t want it

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Anonymous 1d

Depends did you tell her that before making her your gf?

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Anonymous 19h

Nta, you shouldn’t feel forced to have sex

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Anonymous 5h

i mean the only thing i’d say is you should’ve made that clear before you started the relationship—everyone has their own needs and expectations and even though you’re completely valid for having boundaries, you should’ve made them clear so she could decide whether or not she wanted to continue the relationship

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Anonymous 1d

Fake news

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Ty

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 1d

Ty yeah I don’t think it’ll work

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Didn’t think I needed to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

If you didn’t discuss this with her I can absolutely see how she could feel blindsided by it. Is there a specific reason you didn’t mention it before?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Yta then and definitely stupid af if you didn’t think you needed to go over boundaries before making it official

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 20h

It’s dating not getting married? You ask your guy friends about sex all the time or something?

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 20h

It just hadn’t come up yet, we’ve been dating for 2 weeks, so we’ve only hit the basics while gradually going farther in the relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

That does make sense then, I can see why you would both feel the way you do. On one hand you are absolutely allowed your boundaries and whatever you want to do with your body. On the other hand she might feel like you’ve deceived her. I don’t know how long you two were talking before you entered a relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 19h

Especially if it’s for like- religious reasons

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Most girls date to get married

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

The point is it’s okay to have that boundary but you should’ve been honest about it before making it official. Because she’s also not wrong for wanting to have sex with her bf. If she knew from the beginning she wouldn’t be mad at you now

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 14h

We pretty much started dating once we met, we never really had a talking stage, we were just around each other a lot cause we both new to the area and we hit it off

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 14h

But no it’s not religious and I think that’s what bothers her the most about it

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14h

Well so do I, but that’s the whole point of dating to see if marriage will work out

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14h

While I don’t disagree that she can have her desires and maybe I’m not the best partner for her, I’m curious how I should approach this situation when i want to date someone in the future. Is that not a somewhat weird conversation to have?

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