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Is it weird that I don’t want to befriend women I find attractive because I’ll develop feelings and eventually it will come out that I like them unintentionally and ruin the friendship? No problem being friends with women who I don’t find attractive tho
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Naw it’s chill
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Anonymous 2w

You cant be in platonic friendship with attractive women without developing feelings??

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Anonymous 2w

That says more about how you view women than the women itself. You can have platonic relationships with attractive ppl. It just shows you’re incapable of seeing ppl past face and superficial value in order to speak with them

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Anonymous 2w

I just don’t know if you’ll have much luck finding a relationship as most women want to have a friendship before dating someone

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I mean yes I will probably die alone, but that’s besides the point. I’m talking purely platonic

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Well i mean tbf i fuck almost all my friends but its diff with a man

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Bro what? That isn’t what I said. I’m saying you’re going about it wrong. You should be able to have a friendship with a woman without falling in love with her

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Yes. Of course I can try to hide it but it doesn’t take a genius to figure out why I act nervous around them or avoid eye contact

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I can, but if I’m attracted to them it’s hard to avoid

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Huh. Can straight ppl just be romantic and be friends with eachother?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

It shouldn’t be. You are the one who has to make the distinction in your mind between friends and love. If that’s hard, maybe talk to a professional about ways to help so you don’t have to avoid women because of a what if

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Idk i feel like if you establish boundaries that is what it is

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Do women not experience that too though? Like if you’re attracted to someone but you think “oh he just a friend tho” your mind automatically stops being attracted to them? I don’t really see how that works

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

As soon as I make that distinction the feelings go away. I would never avoid someone I think is cute because I’m scared I will catch feelings. If I do I move on with my life

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

If that boundary is set yes i lose all feelings. If the boundary is set that we can be friends that are romantic/sexual then the feelings stay but it makes me rlly uncomfy to crush on a friend who doesnt feel that way ab me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I just don’t see how that works. Like every woman I’ve ever ended up in a social circle with made it clear they didn’t like me and it least made it easy not to get my hopes up or expect anything but feeling don’t just go away like that. I want to make clear though that I would never act on my feelings and that I know women are people and not objects

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

I said before, I can but I’d rather it not get out that I find them attractive because then that’s just awkward for everyone

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