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How do u guys fix ur unhealthy attachment styles
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Anonymous 1d

Therapy helped a lot

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Anonymous 1d

pour more into yourself

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Anonymous 1d

for me, it was first understanding that it’s okay to be attatched but it’s also important to have my own life. i started slowly with doing small things to keep me preoccupied. while my boyfriend who’s ver extrovert and always out with his friends, i started going in a walk with my dogs, watching sunsets, picked up diamond paintings, and overall just finding hobbies that keep you distracted.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I’m trying idk I just can’t seem to focus at all and then I end up distracting myself with other things like YouTube or reading and procrastinating what I need to do and it’s so bad

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I’m such a closed of person irl I could never imagine opening up to a therapist about my problems. It’s different online when I’m typing but I feel like when I try to talk to people I can’t even feel my emotions or talk about them honestly even if I tried so idk if therapy would work for me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Was there any specific strategy in therapy they told u about though that helped. I’m logical so I always feel like I know what I should do but I emotionally can’t do it. Is there something that helped u fix that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Dbt

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Honestly some of the best advice was to listen to my own advice. I am the friend that love to help others, but not myself. Turns out I give some good advice sometimes and I should listen

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

My advice is good but I struggle to follow it. Like I literally don’t get y it’s my brain y can’t it just listen to itself 🥲

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

That’s part of the problem. You need to be willing to open up about how you are feeling to others. Otherwise no one will be able to help you in anyway. Therapy doesn’t like- start off with asking you your problems. It’s a place you go where you face no judgement

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