Ask Women on Sidechat | Why do women always say they want an emotional guy but many men (both online and people I know irl) say that when they cried in front of their partners it led to their partner losing attraction and breaking up?

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Ask Women 4w

Why do women always say they want an emotional guy but many men (both online and people I know irl) say that when they cried in front of their partners it led to their partner losing attraction and breaking up?

Anonymous 4w

Different women want different things

Anonymous 4w

Because it’s not the same people saying those things

Anonymous 4w

I think to some degree when women are saying they want an emotional man, they might mean they want a man who is emotionally intelligent and/or honest with their feelings, not necessarily that they are super reactive when it comes to their emotions. That doesn’t mean a man crying is a bad thing, a relationship should be a safe space for expressing emotions like that.

Anonymous 4w

On an only somewhat related tangent it’s crazy to me that there are women who actually get turned off by their man crying. Like do you even see your partner as a human. My bf is a wayyy bigger cry baby than me and honestly I find it charming. It’s an honor to be their to comfort him and help him through things

Anonymous 4w

Because it’s not true and most women clearly don’t actually want that

Anonymous 4w

It depends on the situation. If a guy is being way too hard on himself, that is when a girl will let him cry. Because to her she is seeing him self torturing himself and to snap out of it is to cry. Crying in other instances is a no no.

Anonymous

#1 4w

Seems like it’s a very common phenomenon, with some exceptions like everything else

Anonymous

OP 4w

Yes it’s very common for women to say they want emotional men. And it’s common for women to not want men who are emotional. THESE ARE DIFFERENT WOMEN THERE ARE A LOT OF WOMEN

Anonymous

#1 4w

As a matter of fact, in many cases it is the same women. Again, both people online as well as people I know irl have said this

Anonymous

OP 4w

How do you know the women saying they want emotional men are the same women breaking up with said emotional men? I don’t know the state of the relationships of most of the women online who say that sort of thing

Anonymous

#1 4w

Because, in the cases I am thinking about, the women said or at least implied they wanted it but then got the “ick” when when they got it

Anonymous

OP 4w

How do you know that about strangers online. Irl I guess is a different story, are these your friends telling you this stuff?

Anonymous

#1 4w

Yes. Obviously people can lie online but I see it VERY often, and plus when I know people who experienced these things it’s less difficult to believe them

Anonymous

OP 4w

So you see online the same Woman say they want emotional men, get into a relationship, then dump a man and say it’s because he was emotional? Where on earth are you seeing this kind of content

Anonymous

#1 4w

Like I see the women saying they want emotional men. I see the people talking about dumping emotional men, but rarely do I see it as a whole story arc with the same woman

Anonymous

#1 4w

Reddit, TikTok, this app, you name it

Anonymous

OP 4w

And you see a collective narrative by the same woman, talking about how she wants an emotional man, getting into a relationship, and then later breaking up with the man for being emotional, constantly? To emphasize THE SAME WOMAN going through all of these steps

Anonymous

#5 4w

I personally am a bit more reactive with my emotions and my boyfriend is more steady with his. He’s cried to me on many occasions over the years, but if he was as reactive as me, I don’t think we would work well together. So even though I see nothing wrong with a man crying, I couldn’t be with someone who cried as much as me just because we’d be a mess together