Ask Women on Sidechat | Am I tripping for feeling my life would be easier if I was a woman? You get validation no matter what basically just for existing. If you’re a man you have to fight hard essentially to receive anything.

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Ask Women 1w

Am I tripping for feeling my life would be easier if I was a woman? You get validation no matter what basically just for existing. If you’re a man you have to fight hard essentially to receive anything.

Anonymous 1w

I’m sorry this is just straight up wrong 😭 I have never gotten validation just for existing. If anything, I’ve felt for years like people constantly judged me for my body, my face, the things I wear etc. Not to mention I entered a majority male field where if you’re a woman who feels confused about *anything* people scrutinize you and assume it’s because you’re an idiot

Anonymous 1w

As a woman you’re wrong about all of that. I don’t receive validation for just existing and I too have to fight to receive anything, sometimes harder because of sexism. Obviously some people are given more but that’s a lot more about class and race and looks than it is about gender

Anonymous 1w

People and society makes me feel more like an ugly aging object lazy unsuccessful bitch or something overall more than validated

Anonymous 1w

I have seen the opposite. I have to fight constantly to prove myself, in my work or my hobbies. I was talking about Warhammer 40k and this guy kept asking if I knew certain rules, judging the factions I play. That’s small but at one point I had to be rushed to the hospital after telling multiple doctors I was in pain but they didn’t believe me. Now I have a permanent scar where they had to cut me open to take rotted tissue out. Being a woman isn’t easy.

Anonymous 1w

Not denying that woman have it extremely difficult in many ways (both genders do) but in some respects it’s easier to be a woman I won’t lie. even my sister has told me this and my trans ftm friend

Anonymous 1w

Why does every girl who’s ever transitioned say being a man is more difficult.

Anonymous

OP 1w

I hope you also realize we also go through many different experiences so if your sister and friend had more easier times that’s them… it could play totally different for you

Anonymous

#1 1w

I also find that people and society treat women a certain way until a certain age and then when you’re actually grown all the care and empathy and doting on is kinda out the window, even the older I get the more my dad treats me like my mom and he is abusive towards my mom. He treated me great growing up.

Anonymous

#4 1w

You would have to get used to: your health issues being more likely to be overlooked, a shockingly large amount of the opposite sex seeing you as less than human (or worse seeing you as literally prey), you would have to get used to society making out things pertaining to your gender,) be it hobbies, clothing, interests, etc) as being shameful and stupid, and all the shit men say about not being allowed to feel emotions, not getting attention, having to work for love. That applies to MOST women

Anonymous

#4 1w

I could be off but I feel like when men think of becoming women and it “being easier” they’re imagining being a pretty young white girl with a great family and financially stable and everyone dotes on here but that’s not the reality for the majority of women and if that’s not your reality as a man that you’re super handsome and successful, it wouldn’t be you reality as a woman either

Anonymous

#1 1w

On her*

Anonymous

#1 1w

Hell I am a reasonable looking white woman from a financially stable family. And while I will acknowledge I have had a LOT more privilege than most people, and am better off than basically any person of color in terms of how society treats me. when I compare my experience to my white male friends of the same economic class they are HORRIFIED by my experiences.

Anonymous

#1 1w

But also I agree.

Anonymous

#4 1w

That too, I phrased that badly, I more mean like how they imagine it is like a TV show or insta page more than reality I think

Anonymous

#5 1w

Not to mention being a woman who has less “gender traditional” interests and having men treat me as though I can’t be as good as them at those things or that I’m just faking it

Anonymous

#6 1w

I mean most likely because the trans experience is difficult. Then are experiencing manhood through the lenses of being trans, meaning they get all the disadvantages of being trans, all disadvantages of being a man, but way fewer of the benefits that come with being a man

Anonymous

#6 1w

Adding to that a lot of female issues lay in sexist ideologies that we internalize like “being girly is atupid” “you are a sex object” etc, which may be easier to escape if you never fully identify with being a woman (and depending when you physically transition you may not deal with a lot of the harassment women face, dealing instead with the harassment trans people face

Anonymous

#6 1w

I looked into this for a while before and they really don’t, there’s differences for better and worse is what I got out of it and maybe they are treated better in some ways presenting as a woman but actually respected less as one

Anonymous

#6 1w

https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/transgender-people-treat-man-woman-differently-lgbt-gender-images-perception-a7681866.html

Anonymous

#6 1w

But it’s worth noting I’ve seen as many trans men say they found living as a woman to be more difficult than living as a man as I have the other way around. It’s going to depend person to person based on individual experiences