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My best friend told me if I ever want to find love I need to pretend to be someone else until I lock him down because the real me is offputting. She essentially said I’m unlovable. Would yall stay friends w someone who told you this? 😭
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Anonymous 1d

No. That’s horrible advice. You’ll never be truly happy in that relationship and you’re manipulating your partner into thinking you’re someone you are not

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Anonymous 17h

I would stop being friends with that person immediately. Telling you that you unloveable is just awful

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Anonymous 6h

Absolutely not. No true friend would ever say that and you definitely deserve better

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22h

I’m not necessarily talking about the advice. I think it’s dumb too. I’m stuck on the fact that she thinks that I can’t be loved for just being myself & called me offputting.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

That is also insane to me. I love my friends because they are who they are. Everyone can and should be loved for being themselves. To live a life of fear and regret because you may be “off putting” is sad. You can of course tone things down, maybe sometimes not be as energetic, but as a friend that’s not something you say

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