Ask Women on Sidechat | My bf lied to me and I feel terrible we got into a fight and I said “how do you expect to get married to anyone by lying to your partner” and I feel so mean and probably said other hurtful things.. how do I get past this

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Ask Women 4w

My bf lied to me and I feel terrible we got into a fight and I said “how do you expect to get married to anyone by lying to your partner” and I feel so mean and probably said other hurtful things.. how do I get past this

Anonymous 4w

I mean… you’re right, depending on what he lied about. White lies can be indicative of relationships where partners choose an option that softens a blow or eases tensions/anxieties. Lies to avoid retribution and repercussions are different. You can apologize for being angry and heated, but you don’t have to apologize for feeling that way. You can say you wish you would’ve acted differently while acknowledging that that’s the way you feel.

Anonymous 4w

I mean I assume it was a pretty big lie so you got two options you can either stay together and try to work it out (with a couples therapist would be your best option) or break up

Anonymous 4w

What was even the lie

Anonymous 3w

You have to tell the lie.

Anonymous

#1 4w

You don’t have to back down on feeling angry that he lied, but you can say “I didn’t mean to word it as if you would never get married by lying, but a good relationship depends on trust, honesty, and respect. That’s something I felt was undermined when I found out you lied to me. I’m sorry I worded it poorly and reacted strongly, but I feel strongly about this.”

Anonymous

#4 3w

For context. Totally not because I’m nosy.