Anonymous #1 6w

Is it a red flag for you?

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Anonymous OP 6w

no but I don't care about people's past at all

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 6w

Looking for a relationship, and what would weird you out?

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Anonymous OP 6w

And what kinda information lol

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Anonymous #2 6w

Is that better than hooking up with multiple ppl?

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Anonymous OP 6w

Well I’d probably want to know when you stopped seeing each other, how important sex is to you in an immediate relationship and why you two weren’t compatible, especially if you were together (FWB) for so long. I don’t do casual hookups at all and I don’t have sex until well into a relationship. And if these are something that’s important to you I’d like to know so I don’t date you.

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Anonymous OP 6w

I’d think so cause at least there’s some kind of commitment to it. I don’t understand how people can do something so intimate with strangers. I couldn’t date someone that did.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 6w

I stopped seeing this person a year ago, and they reached out a couple months back and I said I wasn’t interested anymore. I didn’t wanna date them, cuz they just seemed a little stupid, and lacked common sense at times. Not necessarily a bad person, but not something I would look for in a long term partner.

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Anonymous OP 6w

Sex is important to me, but there has to be some sort of connection and not a random stranger

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Anonymous OP 6w

See but that would lead to more questions. If they lacked common sense and were stupid occasionally (your words not mine) why would you have sex and engage with them? Was it just for the sexual gratification? If you knew you wouldn’t want a long term relationship with them why not just say that?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 6w

Tbh it was just us using each other, neither wanted a relationship with each other. And I engaged with them initially just cuz I thought they were hot, and I lowkey had low self esteem when I first met. But I don’t enjoy that anymore and moved past that, realized that’s not for me anymore.

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Anonymous OP 6w

Is it a red flag if it was just for sexual gratification and validation? Like I said it was very infrequent.

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Anonymous OP 6w

I would be more hesitant. I have absolutely nothing wrong with having a FWB or anything like that but the fact you knew you wanted something serious, like a romantic relationship and still engaged is a bit off putting.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 6w

I mean I wasn’t actively looking for a relationship, sure that would’ve been nice, but I was fine with not one at that time. It’s only now, I would not do that again, after experiencing that I didn’t like it. Again the same fwb was the first and the last hookup I’ve had, and it helped me realize that’s not what I want anymore

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Anonymous OP 6w

What about wanting a serious relationship but engaging in it is off putting? I would’ve liked a serious relationship, just not with that person. But other ppl I would’ve definitely been open to

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Anonymous OP 6w

I was open to both, but serious relationship with the right person was the most preferred

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Yeah, having certain values when it comes to sex is valid.

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