Ask Women on Sidechat | How do you navigate a relationship where your partner has exhibited a bunch of red flags & quite a few women have horror stories of him but he’s also shown you so much love & gone out of his way for you a lot? I almost feel guilty leaving

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How do you navigate a relationship where your partner has exhibited a bunch of red flags & quite a few women have horror stories of him but he’s also shown you so much love & gone out of his way for you a lot? I almost feel guilty leaving

Anonymous 5w

There’s always that one woman that a guy treats better than all the others and changes for the better, but if he’s already showing you red flags maybe it’s a no go

Anonymous 5w

He’s probably just lovebombing you. It will turn to abuse within about a year

Anonymous 5w

So that’s what’s called love bombing

Anonymous

#1 5w

Yeah like I’ve experienced his loving side that he hasn’t shown many people but also relate to some of the horror stories. feels like I’m dating two different people at times.

Anonymous

OP 5w

if you already think that while it's "good" imagine how you're going to feel when he starts treating you like he apparently treats everyone else

Anonymous

#3 5w

You won’t notice it either because it’s so gradual

Anonymous

OP 5w

Oh he’s definitely an abuser. That’s exactly how abuse looks at first. They make you feel special, like you aren’t like the others, but occasionally that mask slips and you see the other version of them. Over time that other version becomes all you ever get. The loving him, that’s fake. It’s not him. The mean version is the only real self he has.

Anonymous

OP 5w

Think about it. If you were a terrible person, no one wanted to date you because of it, and you really wanted a date, you would pretend to be a good person to get one. That’s what he’s doing.

Anonymous

#4 5w

Like slow boiling a frog