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People think I’m gay bc of my personality. Do I tone it down to find a girl or just be myself?
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Anonymous 17h

If you are forced to play a character to make someone love you is that really love?

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Anonymous 16h

no man be yourself, most women won’t be bothered by that, especially cause there are ways to show you’re interested and not gay. don’t pretend or change to find people. that never works. you’ll find someone for you

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Anonymous 16h

I thought someone was gay and didn't engage cause I was like oh he won't be interested in me. Sure enough he was straight Maybe change a little so we aren't questioning BUT don't truly change your personality. You just might have to make interest more obvious.

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Anonymous 9h

Idk man just put a little ally pin on or talk about girls. People will he the hint that you’re not gay

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Anonymous 14h

Like what do you do that makes people think you’re gay?

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Anonymous 11h

Always be yourself. Trust me that the right person will love everything about you

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Anonymous 8h

Just be you.

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Anonymous 8m

Ima dude with the same problem, I think the distinction is making it clear that you are interested in her. It can be much easier to be friendly to them, but I guess you have to make that distinction that you see them as more than a friend. Calling them cute and complimenting them would be a good way to start.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

Idk. It kinda feels like imma have to. At least at first

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

Best answer

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

Okay. I’m being so real. HOW? I’ve been genuine friends with so many women and now I approach everyone as friends. Now when I’m ACTUALLY interested in a girl for once I don’t think they know. It’s worse bc I prefer getting close to women before escalating, but that also means I’m not usually flirty at firstttt.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 12h

Higher pitched voice combined with expressive hand movements and very chalant. Art student. I have a lot of platonic women as friends. Idk people thought I was gay in hs too. Just happens

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11h

You’ll find the person, I thought my bf might be gay at first too. Just flirt a little

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9h

that’s a good thing you do but you can’t just expect them to know. it might be hard but you have to tell them you’re interested in them. and let them know early on somehow you’re interested in girls in the way the other comments say.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3h

It’s good to get to know them first spend up to a year just being their friend treat them nice and take them to do a bunch of things and slowly heat up until you get the courage to tell them or ask them out

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