Anonymous #1 19h

You see how you didn’t extend empathy but want them to have it?

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Anonymous #1 19h

Exactly

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Anonymous #4 18h

Incel culture comes from incels. Incel culture is not the defining feature of the term

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Anonymous OP 18h

Which is still very much a self inflicted thing. You choose to listen to redpill, anti women rhetoric to make yourself feel better about your lack of a sex life. Normal ppl do not resort to that

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Anonymous #4 18h

Incel CULTURE is red pill anti women rhetoric. They are not defining features of the term.

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What does that have to do with it’s still a part of being an incel and that the culture and term itself are both self inflicted causes caused by other miserable men

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Anonymous #5 18h

Depends on the virgin

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Anonymous #4 18h

If nobody wants to fuck you, you can’t change that

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Anonymous OP 18h

So you become an incel bc ppl don’t want to fuck you? So in other words, self inflicted. You CHOOSE that lifestyle over someone not wanting to get your dick wet. Sounds like you have your priorities messed up

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Anonymous #4 18h

Im not an incel. But if nobody wants to fuck you but you still wanna have sex, that makes you by definition an incel… that’s the only thing that defines the term

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Anonymous #4 18h

Why would I want to be in the shoes of a person like that? Plenty of ppl don’t hate women bc they can’t get fucked? Sounds controlling and immature if you ask me

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Anonymous #4 18h

It seems like you have trouble understanding what the term actually is versus what you think the term is

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Anonymous OP 18h

That’s not what the definition means. Plenty of single ppl don’t have sex and don’t resent ppl for that. Bc it’s childish to do so

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Anonymous OP 18h

I know what it means. You don’t apparently

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Anonymous #4 18h

The only thing that defines, the term is the fact that they cannot get laid despite wanting to. They don’t automatically hate women because of it they can however that is not a defining feature of it. I don’t know how many times I have to tell you that.

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Anonymous OP 18h

And yet plenty of ppl would love to have sex, that’s just human nature. Intimacy. The difference is they aren’t actively hating ppl bc they haven’t had sex. Bc they’re normal ppl

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Anonymous #4 18h

Many single people choose not to have sex. However, there are also many who want to have sex but can't find a willing partner. The latter group, by definition, are incels….that's all the term means, no more and no less.

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Anonymous #4 18h

You don’t understand the

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Anonymous #4 18h

You’re not reading what I’m telling you

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Anonymous OP 18h

That just means they aren’t having sex like everyone else. They are not by definition an incel unless they have those red pill hating ideologies over the preferred sex

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Anonymous #4 18h

Incel culture is not a defining feature of what it actually means to be an incel.

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Anonymous OP 18h

I am you’re just overtly stupid

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Anonymous OP 18h

Incel culture has nothing to do with the term itself. Just bc you’re not having sex yet you want to. Doesn’t mean you’re an incel. Bc that means every single person on the planet is an incel and that’s not statistically true. So again. Incels are self inflicted hatred ppl. Regular ppl are perfectly fine without sex despite not having it bc they’re not acting entitled to the action

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Anonymous #4 18h

If you want to get laid, but you can’t get laid despite wanting to get laid, that makes you an incel. That is the only defining feature of the term ….there are things that come after the term like the culture of people developed based on that term. But the culture does not defined the term.

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Anonymous OP 18h

I would want to get laid but I’m not getting laid but I’m not an incel

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Anonymous #4 18h

I need you to repeat to me what I said to you because it seems like you’re just glossing over what I’m saying to you so you can say your own shit

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Anonymous #4 18h

You don’t know what an incel is

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Anonymous OP 18h

I do. You by definition don’t bc you think anyone not having sex whenever they want to is an incel and that’s just not how the spins. Hope this helps

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Anonymous OP 18h

No. It doesn’t.

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Anonymous #4 18h

Being an incel is a passive state (your romantic situation). Participating in incel culture is an active choice (engaging with the community and adopting its beliefs). The ideology is required for the culture, but not for the individual….

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Anonymous OP 18h

I am not going to respect someone that does not respect me, no

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Anonymous #6 17h

Are you comparing someone who struggles to get laid with being a Nazi?

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Anonymous OP 17h

no i’m comparing being an incel to being a nazi. thought that was pretty clear

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Anonymous #6 17h

You used an analogy that uses Nazis in an analogy that substitutes incels for Nazis

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Anonymous OP 17h

yes? and my point still stands idk wtf ur talking about😭

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Anonymous #6 17h

So you’re comparing incels to Nazis …that’s what you’re literally doing

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Anonymous #6 17h

Incels are people who can’t get laid, but want to

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Anonymous #4 14h

I mean technically he is right, some virgins are incels but not all

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Anonymous #7 14h

What does this have to do with struggling to get laid?

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Anonymous OP 14h

I’m confused by your response. The prompt says what could women learn by being in an incel’s shoes and my answer is nothing: they already understand what it’s like (on the whole)

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Anonymous #7 14h

None of what you talked is relevant towhat an incel experiences. Undesirability… can you empathize with what that feels like?

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Anonymous OP 14h

It is relevant, but first let’s acknowledge that women feel undesired no less often than men do. The main difference is that women usually feel undesired relating to their personhood, in other words “who” they are rather than “what” they are. Men are more likely to reject women for long term romances, while women are more likely to reject men who only want hookups, which is to say men are being rejected for more surface level attributes (like appearance)

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Anonymous #7 14h

And if i said men are being rejected for both?

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Anonymous #7 14h

…while women often find themselves in situations with men who are willing to sleep with them or maintain casual relationships, but don’t desire any more serious commitment (which is more of a rejection of the whole). But all of this is a sidebar to what I was talking about.

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Anonymous OP 14h

They are. So are women.

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Anonymous #7 14h

Not as often

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Anonymous OP 14h

Well that goes to my point about women being more likely to be rejected for the long term relationships/romances they want while men are more likely to be rejected for short term encounters

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Anonymous #7 14h

Men are more likely to be rejected for both

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Anonymous OP 13h

The research says otherwise. Women who are actively dating are significantly more likely than men to be exclusively seeking a committed relationship (41% vs. 25%), while men are more likely to be open to casual dating. So I’m not sure what evidence you’re basing the claim that men are more likely to be rejected for long-term relationships on, the data point in the opposite direction in terms of what men and women are actually seeking

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Anonymous OP 13h

I can see why you’d believe this if you narrowly define rejection as overt ‘nos’ rather than ghosting someone or using them for sex and then dropping them, etc

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Anonymous #7 13h

You can’t use statistics on who is more open to what to say who gets rejected more for what?

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Anonymous OP 13h

They don’t exist

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Anonymous #7 13h

Open to being corrected here, but I’ve done my digging and I’m sure if you had anything you would’ve provided it

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Anonymous #7 13h

Ok cupid and match.com data…. Speed dating data

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Anonymous OP 9h

yes this is literally what i said💀

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Anonymous #6 3m

Incels are only ppl who can’t get laid. Thats its

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