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I’m an incoming freshman. I don’t know lime how to start doing hookups or like get into the hookup scene so to speak. The only problem is that I’m a virgin, I’ve only ever kissed one guy before and I’ve never done anything sexual with a guy OR girl. HELP!
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Anonymous 6w

I was in your exact spot coming into my freshman year and lost my virginity to a hookup in September of my sophomore year. The experience was really worth it for me, but I would recommend waiting a while. Being a freshman and living as an adult on your own for the first time is a big, turbulent thing that will make you vulnerable, and there are a lot of upperclassmen who will take advantage of that to play with your feelings and lead you on

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Anonymous 6w

Don’t do it

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Anonymous 6w

Make friends first, go to the parties with those friends, DONT DRINK ANYTHING, and if you think a guy is cute and he makes a move and you reciprocate, do it with him but stay sober and use protection and let your friends know for safety purposes

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Anonymous 6w

I am a girl btw

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

I NEED it tho, like you don’t understand😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Why do u NEED it??

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

NEED it is crazy

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

I just dooooo like idk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

If you NEED it so bad then you’ll figure it out pretty quickly lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Think about how this shit is disrespectful to ur future bf and husband.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

okay hold on, by all means you should think about why you feel compelled to have hookups but basing it on a hypothetical man's opinion is stupid as hell

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

Okay ew. That’s not why this is a bad idea. A hypothetical man’s opinion doesn’t matter

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

The reason I say this is because I’ve been in a situation like this and I regret it to this day. There was a person for me that really cared and loved me, even the ugliest part. I ended up hurting him because I was doing all the hookups and he left.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

hooking up with people while you're in a relationship is very obviously different wtf

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

No we weren’t in a relationship. We were really close friends.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

this seems like a situation much more specific to you. OP should protect herself and her boundaries but "what if you make a man sad" is dumb

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

People who would be a good choice to lose your virginity to as a hookup are usually not going to want to do that with someone who’s newly a freshman. Waiting for sophomore year, when you’re more stable and confident in yourself, would probably be best

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