Ask Women on Sidechat | I told my crush (we are pretty close, traveled internationally and went to camping trip together multiple times) my feelings. She said she’s confused. I said it’s not healthy for me to stay friends like this. She says she wants me in her life forever. Nex

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Ask Women 1d

I told my crush (we are pretty close, traveled internationally and went to camping trip together multiple times) my feelings. She said she’s confused. I said it’s not healthy for me to stay friends like this. She says she wants me in her life forever. Nex

Anonymous 1d

t day we talk for 10 hour straight, but another day later she tells me she fucked a guy just to feel loved for a tiny bit, she fucking regrets it because she said she thought of me mid sex. I fucking hate her for it, but I genuinely see the good in her. Am I wildin?

Anonymous 22h

Not to be that person but usually when someone’s interpersonal life is turbulent like this, and they find themselves sabotaging a relationship they genuinely really want, that could be a sign of something deeper at play. If she’s up for the vulnerability it requires, maybe a conversation about why she follows this pattern could be enlightening for you both. I also think therapy could help her a lot with healing and figuring herself out.

Anonymous 19h

she doesnt know what she wants and shes dragging you down into her confusion and chaos. and you need boundaries and more self respect.... why are you ok with being strung along like this?

Anonymous 17h

Just tell her this doesn’t have to be forever but I need to go no contact until I get over you.

Anonymous 6h

Give y’all some space and time to think things through and then reconvene

Anonymous

OP 1d

No you’re not tripping She was lowkey in the clear for a bit until she said she was thinking of you. It sounds like you guys are really good friends and when you confessed it probably confused the hell out of her because she might not like you back but you guys have done so many fun stuff together she therefore wants you to stay in her life. Im gonna guess though that your confession got her thinking about you, fantasising, causing her to think about you while fucking someone else (naturally)

Anonymous

#1 1d

She was wrong for telling you she thought about you mid-sex, she’s not wrong for rejecting you. My advice? Give it space and time. I dont think its good for you to continue being friends like nothing happened, especially if you really like her. Give her time to properly think, she might come to like you back (her thinking about you mid sex isn’t a negative or positive though, it would happen to most people). If she doesn’t come to like you back then oh well🤷‍♀️ Its a pity but it happens

Anonymous

#1 1d

Thank you, I really appreciate this. The thing I hate the most about this is that she keeps leaving me in the grey zone. She would start flirting with me, like I love you and I want to kiss you and stuff. She says she rather have me as a friend because if we date, then one day we will break up and be strangers. She says she doesn’t want that to happen because she wants me in her life forever like I said before. Is this a normal and natural thing to do because I’ve never heard someone say this.

Anonymous

OP 1d

And yes, we are on a break now, we haven’t texted in about a month.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Oh ok see thats not normal 😭 I‘m a naturally flirty girl but what she’s doing is just playing with your feelings. What she’s saying makes sense, people have awesome friendships, date and it ruins it. BUT she should not be flirting with you, I can only imagine how confused you must be, I‘m really sorry.

Anonymous

#1 1d

None of the shit she does is normal now I think about it. Would you tell ur guy friend that you had a dream of getting the best head of her life from him? Like wtf is that. She’s weird but that’s one of the things I like about her. I really don’t know if she wants me for my attention or genuinely think because im a good friend. I get the sense that she loves external validation.

Anonymous

OP 1d

She said she never loved someone, even her exes. She said she just took in whoever liked her first. This is def a red flag I feel like or is it? All the hookups that she done she did it because the other side wanted to.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Sry I’m just dumping all this I’ve been thinking about it for the past 3 weeks and I couldn’t reach my conclusion

Anonymous

#4 16h

Does it ever go away?

Anonymous

OP 15h

I don’t know.

Anonymous

OP 15h

She sounds like the straight girl in homoerotic friendship. They fuck you up for yearsss

Anonymous

#4 13h