Ask Women on Sidechat | Do you care if your bf likes photos of this girl he used to be obsessed with? He liked her for years and also wants to be with her for a long time?

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Do you care if your bf likes photos of this girl he used to be obsessed with? He liked her for years and also wants to be with her for a long time?

Anonymous 8w

It’s not a controlling thing babe, it’s a respect thing. If he can’t respect you then that’s a whole other ordeal.

Anonymous 8w

Oh I definitely would, he’s got your photos to like now

Anonymous 8w

Yes. That’s very wrong. 🚩🚩🚩

Anonymous 8w

Red flag all the way. Let’s say down the line you two continue your relationship, he’ll potentially be thinking about or even talking to this girl behind your back. And this is only one girl you know about. He is a loser.

Anonymous 8w

After reading your other comments, I think that your bf probably has lower than average empathy and higher than average feelings of entitlement. Lower empathy = he calls you controlling for having feelings, instead of telling you that your feelings are valid and trying to help. Higher entitlement = he thinks he’s entitled to do what he wants with zero consideration for his partner.

Anonymous

#2 8w

he makes it seem like I’m “controlling him.” He flat out told me he waits to like photos so I won’t see it and get upset. so this girl he used to like, he waits a few days and then will like bc he said “I know you would get upset if you saw that I liked it”

Anonymous

OP 8w

That sounds manipulative af

Anonymous

#4 8w

Here’s a good test to do: return his energy and see how he reacts. Pick something small— maybe try calling him “controlling” next time he asks you to stop doing something. See how he reacts. If he says “oh yeah, that was controlling of me”, then maybe his values are just a little off. If he gets mad or argues, he’s probably immature and selfish, and probably not worth your time.