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Can I report this guy? I said I only want to have sex if he won’t ghost me and then he ghosted me.
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Anonymous 2d

That’s not SA, he’s just an asshole

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Anonymous 2d

This isn’t grounds for SA. Think you need to move on

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Anonymous 1d

2 is correct, sorry. I’m sorry u feel cheated and that sucks but that’s not S.A.

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Anonymous 2d

report where ? for what? i’m sorry that happened to you but being an asshole isnt a crime.

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Anonymous 2d

hey girl i work with survivors of SA so i just wanted to give my two cents. it doesn’t really matter if it’s technically “sexual assault” legally if you felt coerced and like the consent you gave wasn’t informed then you are 100% entitled to feel that way. as for reporting though unfortunately SA doesn’t often get taken seriously. you should do what feels right for you but being honest theres a very small chance anything would come of it. still im rly sorry that happened to you sending love <3

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Anonymous 2d

lol

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Anonymous 2d

#2 here is proving my point that coercive SA and rape is rarely taken seriously, he wasn’t just an asshole he used coercive behavior to manipulate and make her have sex w him

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Anonymous 2d

MULTIPLE WOMEN IN THE COMMENTS SAYING THEY GOT #2 BLOCKED AND SUGGESTING TO NOT TAKE THEIR WORD. It might be for a reasonnnnn😬

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Anonymous 2d

Uhhh not exactly, they wouldn’t really take it seriously unfortunately, as a society we have yet to take coercive SA seriously, but yes if he coerced u into it, it was SA

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Anonymous 2d

2 is blocked for me so I wouldn’t trust their word much

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

I just I don’t want to have sex if he’s going to ghost me and he pinky promised

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

That’s SA

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

How can I report him!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Isn’t it rape because we had sex?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Got to the police file a report like normal but like I said the law don’t really gaf abt victims of coercive SA

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Yeah I just didn’t want to get censored, marital rape is real as well and treated just the same too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Not what #1 said

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

That’s not SA or coercion, it was mutually consensual and there was no coercion, because she was the one that wanted to have sex, he said he wouldn’t ghost her and he did. Big whoop. People ghost one night stands all the time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I only wanted to have sex if he didn’t ghost me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

#1 is wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

That’s still not coercion

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

How?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

How is it not?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

I understand you feel cheated and angry because he ghosted you but the sex was consensual and you just gotta move on

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

It’s not coercive behavior unless he was pestering her about it, which maybe he did. But the way OP made it sound is she was the one who initially wanted to have sex. Dick move maybe, not sexual assault

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Ur only saying that bc u view rape as this crazy violent act, which it is, it’s traumatic asl for the victims but the rape that mainly happens her is through manipulation and coercion and that why so many victims don’t get justice bc it didn’t happen in the crazy violent way everyone immediately thinks of, educate urself, use google, not tik tok, it goes wayyyyyyy deeper than physically forcing ur body in another, usually men will resort to other ways to force u before getting physically violent

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

Yeahhh I wouldn’t doubt it, seems like the….. type

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

That’s not true. Saying you’re not gonna ghost someone isn’t a legally binding contract. What if he ghosted her for other reasons? He is not forced to talk to her. Unless she has actual evidence like text messages of him pestering her for sex until she agrees, it’s never going to be a coercion case.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Yeah sureeee 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Yk u look a bit like a silly goose when u say “yeah sureeee” bc they all in here saying it everyone can see them but u 🫵😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Ah yes, because everyone is supposed to take the word of random ass people

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Mind u this man is more worried abt the legal aspects of a rape situation here than the actual raping that’s happening and the actual trauma being caused

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

don’t waste your time with a police report. it is not a crime to ghost someone after sex.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

a pinky promise is not a legally binding deal. you got played that sucks but consenting to sex unfortunately means accepting whatever happens afterwards

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Not S.A.

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