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If I start going to therapy for severe focus related issues, would some people see that as a red flag? I feel like unless I get personal and specify what it’s for, most people would probably assume I’m going for something like depression instead
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Anonymous 4w

Green flag

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Anonymous 4w

For context, I’ve had really bad focus issues for a while, and it’s severely impacting my academics. I get all A’s on every test, but it’s the assignments that kill me. I have all the abilities and talent I need to succeed, but I can’t seem to find a way to use them to maintain focus on a proper routine and fully lock in. I can lock in for like 2-3 weeks but then I get back into a rut whenever I hit a speedbump. So, after trying and failing to fix everything myself, I’ve decided to get help

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I basically just got frustrated enough to finally not let anxiety about getting therapy or whatever stop me from doing it because I know I’m not stupid, and I’m very good at what I do for my major, so there should be no reason for me not to have a 4.0 and be able to manage my hobbies, yet I’m barely functioning and getting from day to day

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Obviously I don’t want to date anybody while I’m in this state and dealing with my problems, so I’m mostly asking for after things get better if I told someone that I went to therapy/was still going after getting my life back on track to make sure I don’t fall back into a rut. I certainly would not expect someone to be a crutch for me right now. That would be unfair, and having been someone’s crutch like that, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy 💀

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Also I’ve been having the same problem school and focus wise - to the point where I had to take a temporary leave

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

It sucks and I’m sorry, I hope therapy helps

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I think that’s what I’m going to have to do as well. I’m hoping that now that I’ll be meeting with the school’s mental health services, I can negotiate to be able to take part time and keep my scholarships and stuff, but due to how badly it’s impacted my academics and how stingy schools usually are, I unfortunately expect to get turned down

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Thanks twin, I hope your temporary leave helps you as well

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