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Ask Women 1d

how to get a bf in college. someone pls enlighten me, im a sophomore and ive never had a guy like me long enough to get to that stage.

Anonymous 1d

….literally ask a guy out. It’s going to be MUCH easier to find a guy as a girl than the other way around because guys do not approach anymore (they’re more afraid)

Anonymous 6h

Honestly, just take care of yourself and talk to them. When I say take care of yourself, I mean hygienically, physically, and emotionally. Talking to guys not only catches their attention, but it also makes them feel more comfortable around you. Many guys are too shy or don’t want to be viewed as a creep to talk to women. Starting the conversation really helps their anxiety.

Anonymous

#1 1d

says who? they literally never stop 😭

Anonymous

#1 1d

This is also you. Why do you think women who ask people out are going to succeed because you’re wrong lol

Anonymous

#2 1d

If men are always approaching you, then… that answers the question, doesnt it? But OP clearly hasn’t had this experience (and many other women also haven’t) and I’m explaining why men aren’t approaching as much. So do the approaching yourself. 90% of the time, he will say yes.

Anonymous

#1 1d

I just disagree with this "men are afraid" narrative

Anonymous

#2 11h

Of course more men are afraid today to approach than in years past. We even have data oh this. You don’t get to “disagree” because it is simply the case that men are asking women out less, and if you look at the data for why, men report fear of seeming “creepy” as a major reason.

Anonymous

#3 11h

“because you’re wrong lol” Have you tried? Or are you still sitting on your hands waiting for Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet? Because yes, if you ask a guy out, he will very very likely say yes.

Anonymous

#1 11h

oh you're a guy and you're mad lol

Anonymous

#2 11h

Uh ok? And your answer to me was that men always approach you? Clearly OP doesn’t have that issue, so you’re not having the same problem. It is clear that men are approaching less. Why that is, we can discuss, but that’s just true. And I’ve already explained why.

Anonymous

#2 11h

Not sure why “men can’t stop approaching me” is a good response here when OP is asking how to find a bf And no, I’m not mad. Just here to answer.

Anonymous

#1 11h

I wasn't responding to OP, I was responding to you... and it's notable that you're a man because this is ask women so you're obviously speaking out of turn here

Anonymous

#2 10h

Like I said, I was explaining what OP is experiencing. You are answering by claiming that what OP is experiencing does not happen to you. By disagreed with me, you disagreed with OP because OP also understands that it’s not easy to find men approaching her.