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286 upvotes, 25 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Ask Women. "True?"
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Anonymous 30w

That kind of man would rather kill you (not himself) than be seen as weak

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Anonymous 30w

Yes

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Anonymous 30w

Yeah

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Anonymous 30w

It’s a fairly specific situation/kind of person the guy is describing here. A highly insecure man hasn’t fully developed his own inner confidence or moral core yet, so is more vulnerable to ill-intentioned advice or stereotypes about what a man should be. So when he’s trying to prove he’s not weak, he may go down a bad path and do extreme things to prove himself. Note that “trying to prove he’s not weak” is VERY different from “actually becoming stronger”.

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Anonymous 30w

This is absolutely true

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Anonymous 30w

Wait til u guys find about the greed of the elites and the suffocation of capitalism

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Anonymous 30w

100%

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Anonymous 30w

Yes bc that type of man is much more likely to abuse (or even kill) his family than other men. They gain respect by demanding it and fear mongering rather than actually earning it

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Anonymous 30w

Rando military dude in comments talking about bars really just scared he’s getting cheated on while away

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Anonymous 30w

ratqueen or ratface we’re just gonna have to agree to disagree, good luck with the guy at the bar who never gets kicked out

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Anonymous 30w

women name one family member you have who served in the military go

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 30w

Why?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 30w

The problem is NOT that a man is insecure and working on himself. Wanting to become better at something, become a better person, strengthen yourself physically or mentally, etc. are usually a good thing. But then there’s not really a need to “prove” anything, because as you get stronger at something, you know you are stronger at it, and you get more secure, and other people’s opinions on it don’t matter quite as much anymore.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 30w

The stronger/more secure you get the more visceral the criticism. The more jealousy with destruction is communicated. Turning to an arms race of confidence and criticism. To have confidence you have to give a shit. Otherwise you just “k” the people who don’t get you

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 30w

Maybe I’m misunderstanding, but I don’t agree.. I think the very definition of being secure as a person is that you know which criticism is valid/helpful for you to improve as a person, and which criticism is just jealousy and not worth dwelling on (even if it stings temporarily).

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 30w

The lengths a man will go to prove to himself how secure he is within himself can be scary.

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 30w

lmao as if you’re going to know them

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 30w

If there really is a guy who just regularly assaults women then ofc it’s reasonable not to want your wife going there It would be paranoia if they had like, good security and no incidents

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 30w

Pew pew pew

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 30w

The military fucks guys up Imagine going overseas, then you come back to your girl cheating on you and you’re scared of fireworks. Can’t even blame em

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Anonymous replying to -> theratqueen 30w

Gotta be upfront about the insecurity first

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 30w

theratqueen respects servicemen, I think they will make it very far in life, you on the other hand…let me give you an insight, during training we had a guy pew himself in the foot just to get out of a deployment…using that logic that means a deployment is worse than a pew pew

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 30w

I have no idea what any of this has to do with the post

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 30w

some guy’s being a creep at the bar so then I start an argument with the guy, “feel threatened” and then pew pew, how does that make me insecure

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 30w

I’m still confused, but anyway, it does sound like a hard life

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