Ask Women on Sidechat | Ladies, I was with my ex for 3.5 years before we broke up. A big part of why we broke up was because of my ptsd that I developed from something that happened during the relationship. I feel bad for hurting her emotionally, but it’s been 6 months since the

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Ask Women 14w

Ladies, I was with my ex for 3.5 years before we broke up. A big part of why we broke up was because of my ptsd that I developed from something that happened during the relationship. I feel bad for hurting her emotionally, but it’s been 6 months since the

Anonymous 14w

I think you’d be telling her for your own sake. You’d probably feel better if she saw you as a trauma victim rather than a reactive abuser (truth nuke: you can be both) (I have been too, and so have most people with trauma, that’s life) I think it’s fine to tell her for your own reasons bc it seems like you feel compelled to, but I don’t think it’d do/change much for her

Anonymous 14w

Did u cheat

Anonymous 14w

Since the breakup, do I tell her?

Anonymous 14w

do you guys talk still?

Anonymous 14w

I think she should know for your and her sake. If nothing else just frame it as an apology and explanation and ask nothing more than

Anonymous

OP 14w

We haven’t spoken since, and I’m wondering whether it’ll just hurt her more to tell her by bringing up bad memories, but also I feel like she deserves to know the real reason things went to shit

Anonymous

#1 14w

We spoke once a couple weeks post breakup, but it was very emotionally charged because we both had hurt each other a lot, so it didn’t go great. We haven’t spoken or seen each other in a few months

Anonymous

OP 14w

She suspects I had some trauma but she doesn’t know anything about it really. I got diagnosed with ptsd with moderate debilitation

Anonymous

OP 14w

idk if you're not otherwise in communication i can't see what good would come of it

Anonymous

#3 14w

Yeah I think it’s definitely a bit for myself because I feel bad for never telling her. I’m not expecting it to change anything for her or make her want to get back together or anything, I’ve let go of that

Anonymous

#1 14w

Idk I just feel like she was on the receiving end of a lot of my bullshit and it was probably confusing and hurtful for her so I just feel like out of all people she deserves to know, just for the sake of having the truth

Anonymous

#5 14w

Hell no