Anonymous #3 11w

Coercion is still sexual assault. Not every situation is safe to say “no” and leave from.

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Anonymous #7 11w

You need help.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Am I wrong

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Anonymous #7 11w

Yeah, in the head. Coercion is not consent.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Was she forced to say yes? I didn’t hear her mention a gun or weapon or anything forcing her to

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Yet she didn’t lol

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Anonymous #7 11w

I really hope you never have to experience anything like it. It’s fucking disgusting you’re saying “lol” to a very serious issue. You need therapy to learn even a shred of decency.

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Anonymous #5 11w

There is a reason you didn’t answer that question

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7 doesn’t know what it’s like for others to not cover their drinks around him.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Most people should take care of their drinks at all times. The fact you think otherwise tells me why you see nothing wrong with this post lol

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Anonymous #7 11w

Yeah, there is something wrong with it. Coercion and assault. Yet you’re defending it because you’re problematic and contribute to it.

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Anonymous #5 11w

So she was forced to say yes and also forced to never ask him to stop during?

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Anonymous #7 11w

You are revolting. Imaging defending sexual assault and thinking you’re not in need of serious interventional mental help.

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Anonymous #5 11w

It’s a yes or no question and there is a reason you aren’t answering

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Anonymous #3 11w

You can’t always leave have you heard of a freeze response

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Then yeah, it would be rape

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Anonymous #7 11w

It’s assault no matter how you try to paint it.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Where did the op say it wasn’t safe

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Anonymous #5 11w

Are you going to answer my question or not?

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Anonymous #7 11w

Rape apologists don’t deserve teeth.

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Anonymous #9 11w

I recently broke up with my ex, who did a similar thing to me (but not as bad). Looking back, he did a lot that showed lack of respect for me and my choices. Only one guy ever truly respected my boundaries. We were kissing, and he got a little handsy. I made one noise, not even a word, and he immediately said “Oh wait you’re not comfortable with that?” and then stopped.

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Anonymous #9 11w

Haven’t seen that guy in years, but I’m so glad he was there to set the standards and give me something to compare men to. It probably also means I’ll die single because few men follow even this basic standard, but that is preferable to the bullshit.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Got that right. Actually they don’t deserve their genitals. Castration is such a beautiful thing. Hey dude, I know you don’t want your parts cut off, but you better do it or we’ll all be mad.

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Anonymous #9 11w

It seems like you’re already mad so I’ve got that covered

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So because she predicted he MAY become angry even though he wasn’t at the time she was forced?

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I will answer your question after you answer mine

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I find it funny how badly you want an answer from someone you deem incompetent it’s hilarious

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Anonymous #7 11w

Imma speak as someone who has been coerced into stuff. You are terrified in that moment and your only thoughts in your mind are on how to not get hurt. Your brain rationalizes with you it’s better to say yes because if I don’t they will just do it anyways. Often escape is not an answer, for me he was holding onto my arm and wouldn’t let go until I said yes no matter how hard I pulled away (it left bruises), for others it’s because they are scared they will get hurt more

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It’s genuinely one of the hardest things someone can go through. I’m so happy you made it through it

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Anonymous #7 11w

#6 is probably the type of girl that gets upset a guy didn’t pick up on her signals and keep pursuing her after she said no

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Anonymous #7 11w

Yes

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Anonymous #10 11w

The OP never described the guy as doing anything like that so idk why you all are assuming there was some similar threat at play they would’ve said so

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Anonymous #7 11w

There might not have been any physical threats like him blocking her or other things like that. The threat of the fact that there might be more harm caused is often what causes women to give in because it’s better to say yes than be forced to (you’re still being forced to). Have you ever been in a situation where you feel unsafe but you can’t leave for whatever reason. Yes or No

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Anonymous #10 11w

You are describing an imagined threat. That is not the same as there legitimately being one present. Keep in mind the op not once has disputed this or supported what you are suggesting

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Anonymous #7 11w

You have no context for the situation I’ve been in situations where there is a real threat such as weaponry

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Anonymous #8 11w

Same, I’ve been in situations where there is the “imaginary” threat of physical violence possible beings caused by the person, I’ve been in situations where I physically cannot leave because the person was holding me there, I’ve been in situations where I was dating the person and was scared they would leave/hurt me if I didn’t have sex with them or do things I was not comfortable with. There are so many ways sexual assault can happen and it’s not always just someone having a weapon against them

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Anonymous #8 11w

Irrelevant as we are talking about the story in the post only

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Anonymous #7 11w

And you have no idea if this person is true threat or not

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Anonymous #8 11w

Neither do you yet you all speak like there is a threat. Consider the fact that the threat if it were present would’ve been written about in the post

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Anonymous #7 11w

I was in his house and he’d driven me there, it was 4 am, he had 8 inches of height on me, and knows how to fight since he’s military and probably had a gun somewhere too if that gives you any context. Seriously dude

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Anonymous #7 11w

Consider the fact that op might not owe you every detail for her situation to be validated

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Anonymous OP 11w

Why are you at someone’s house at 4am who you deem unsafe and have no intentions of having sex with

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Anonymous #8 11w

Cool

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Anonymous OP 11w

I’m glad nothing more happened. What happened already is horrible. Btw if ever you want advice for how to deal with the aftermath I’d be happy to help and my DMs are open (I completely understand too if you don’t want to talk to a stranger)

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Anonymous #7 11w

People make mistakes

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Anonymous #7 11w

Can ya not victim blame

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