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I miss my best friend. But she’s been MIA after she got married. Friends for 15 yrs & I got invited morning of & obv couldn’t make it. We like 5 min away from each other but haven’t seen her in close to a yr. She’s hard to link with now. Any advice?
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Anonymous 10w

Show up at the door

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Anonymous 10w

Send a gift basket maybe “congrats on the wedding” some wine glass sets or some wine w chocolate

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Anonymous 10w

🚩 She probably needs you more than she knows. This is NOT normal couple behavior. He is probably controlling and/or abusive. Not sure what to do immediately. If you let on that you suspect him of anything, he might cut you off completely. I’m not really in a position to give advice, but maybe look into it.

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Anonymous 9w

i’ve been in this type of relationship. keep the line open. there is always a chance that she wants this & it’s her choice but if it’s him doing it keep reaching out, even if it’s just once or twice a month. make sure she knows that you want her there. and you should offer to come over (maybe under the guise of bringing food to congratulate, etc.) get nosy, feel the vibe out. total isolation is abnormal & creates a perfect opportunity for abuse. all we have is each other.

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Anonymous 10w

Nope. She’s wifed up now

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

But why can’t she have friends too? She literally stopped talking to all her friends lol. Guaranteed her husband still has his.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

What is the husbands political leaning or religious background? Does your friend work or is she a stay at home?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

They’re not religious. She stays at home full time. No kids.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

I’m not doing that. I’ve tried initiating multiple hang outs, she clearly knows I wanna see her. I’ll respect her space.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9w

saying this as someone who only got out because i knew i had friends on the other side of things. you know your situation best

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9w

I’ve tried inviting her over, I’ve tried inviting myself over, I’ve tried inviting her out. I’ve taken a step back because I am a bit drained & tried of the rejection. But I will try again in the future.

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