Anonymous #1 4w

Liking and enjoying someone is easy. Loving and being in love are harder things that take more time to build as you get to know them. Maybe we’re defining love differently but if they say “I love you” that quickly I don’t trust it or them.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Not saying it when you barely know them doesn’t mean you can never say it after you know them better 😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

OHHHHHHHHHHH. I still don’t tell them that even after a while. I keep my feelings to myself

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Anonymous #1 4w

This is really interesting. I was thinking of it as loving someone romantically, but I guess you're right in this way. Especially if I say it to a partner, I'm thinking it to be deeper than the love I'd have for a friend. Would you say that last sentence is true? Or are the 1-month "Ily"s already deeper?

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Anonymous #3 4w

I think it depends on how much time you’ve spent with them in that month or gotten to know them? If you’ve seen them for hours multiple days of the week nonstop for that month or knew them before you dated I think it’s possible. But if you’ve only gone on a few dates I see that more as fondness (like hey they’re really cool) or infatuation (you’re thrilled to be around them to the point you don’t notice their flaws). Big L Love is you seeing their soul and faults and still seeing them as home.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Beautiful description there. (I hope that doesn't sound sarcastic it isn't meant to be) That's what makes breakups rough, getting homeless before u found a couch to crash on 😭

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Anonymous #4 4w

No. It takes some people longer than others, and some people show it rather than act on it. As long as you’re both on the same page then you’re good!

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