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How do I let people love me? Is it truly possible that someone out there is willing to wade through the shit with me just to see a bit of sunshine? How does someone know that I'm even worth the time and effort? I want to let someone in but I'm scared.
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Anonymous 1d

These are all risks we take when getting to know and love someone. It’s scary, but worth the risk in my opinion. If you’re ready for it and you meet someone you connect well with, I think it’s risk worth taking.

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Anonymous 1d

What if they decide to start on a project and quit when it's halfway done because the work is too hard? What if I, in all my glorious, mentally ill, traumatized mess, end up hurting someone else? What if I don't deserve someone's care because of what I've done? How do I stop myself from seeking love in places where it doesn't exist? How do I stop my heart from bleeding so much?

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Anonymous 15h

That’s for them to decide it is not your decision to make.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Start picturing in your head the person you wish to be and with everything you do and say, think to yourself, “what would that person do?” This gives you some detachment, stops the overthinking. It creates the mindset that life is happening around you, not to you. Everyday you will get closer and closer to the person that you want to be in your head. The meaning of life is to love and to be loved– the only thing you’ll think abt in your final moments are the memories made with the ppl in ur life

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