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Do you think it is okay to be dating someone(as in not bf/gf, just going on dates, sleeping together) for a month. Then meet someone new and also be seeing them(hanging out and sleeping together)
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Anonymous 2w

It can be dangerous if someone isn’t disclosing an STD and you spread it to the other person without their knowledge

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Anonymous 2w

If you still like someone after a whole month of all that but not enough to stop seeing other people then I think you can’t be that into the first person or it’s about time to make a decision

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Anonymous 2w

As long as you are honest with both parties and let them know

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Anonymous 2w

It may not have a label but that feels morally wrong

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Anonymous 2w

I think as long as ur communicating boundaries, it’s fine. U have to communicate where u are in the relationship bc some people may view how things are going differently and if ur having sex w someone, I think it’s important u tell them to make sure they are okay w that bc intimacy may mean more to them. As long as u are on the same page and being respectful, that’s ur business to be talkin to who u want.

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Anonymous 2w

Y not?

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Anonymous 2w

No but thats on you for not making it official

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Its one thing if you see a person once or twice and are undecided and other person presents themselves and you see if you like them more, a whole month of dates and sleeping together is another

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Oh and one more time, I don’t think you should be sleeping with multiple people at once if you are serious about dating and you’re not just doing hookups. It makes it more complicated and unfair if they’re also interested in being serious with you and you’re undecided and it is just too messy in addition to the safety stuff

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

One more thing*

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

If you don’t disclose this though you’re a massive asshole

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

I 100% agree. This is what I tried telling her but she is acting like she did nothing wrong.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Yea she never said shit. She brought up how she was(implying not anymore) seeing someone else but it wasn’t serious. Which was a lie bc I later found out she was sleeping with him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Ok I’m glad she told you at least and this isn’t you doing it and not telling the other person, but yeah realistically if you can’t get through to her you’re gonna have to either accept this or cut your losses and end this here

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Yea I think it is extremely disrespectful to me, it hurt a lot. However, to find this out I did go through her phone… which ik is bad on my part, but I couldn’t help but feel like something was off

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

That’s crazy I’m sorry

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Ok nvm I say just end it

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Like if everyones on board and testing what is the issue

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Yea it really sucks, I was giving our relationship my all, while she was splitting her time and effort with someone else. She doesn’t even think what she did was wrong, bc she is a single adult.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

I did, I just want to make sure that it is generally agreed upon that what she did was fucked up

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

No one was on board. She never told me about him.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Yeah for not telling you esp. I used to not understand what a casual relationship or dating was, like isnt a relationship serious, but I feel like that is what she wants

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Yea it just felt serious to me, and I thought she was on the same boat.

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Anonymous replying to -> twirling_tornado 2w

We agreed on being exclusive, but she was still texting him after that. She said she needed more time to be in an official bf/gf relationshio bc it is a big commitment.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

she needed more time bc she wanted to keep texting him LMAO

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Turbo fucked

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