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can I ask why there’s a fear of getting married? Context in comments.

Anonymous 22w

i’m not afraid of getting married i’m afraid of marrying the wrong person

Anonymous 22w

I’m a guy who has been in your gfs shoes. It’s neither of yours faults. You are just in different places and have irreconcilable views of the relationship. I think for both your sanities you should break up with her. Neither of you deserve each other at this point in your lives.

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Anonymous 22w

I’m sorry OP. It sounds like she’s not the right person for you. Especially since it seems like she wants to date/ have sex with other people besides you.

Anonymous 22w

one second sorry

Anonymous 22w

Income tax

Anonymous 22w

Afraid of partner cheating

Anonymous 22w

I’m not scared of getting married, it’s the wrong person I’m afraid of. I definitely think the date to marry idea is also strange, but for a whole bunch of reasons (I’ve never dated bf anyways).

Anonymous

OP 22w

“One second sorry” ~15 minutes ago😭 commenting so that I can come back later!

Anonymous

#2 22w

lmaooo I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to disappear, lemme get to typing

Anonymous

#2 22w

I(19) and my gf(19) have been together for nearly 7 months. I get we’re young. That’s fine. I get stuff’s uncertain. But I made it clear that I date to marry from the start, and it seems that it was an issue that she didn’t feel like mentioning for her. I’m not saying “oh I wanna get married RN-“, I’m saying in like 5-7 years. Stability would be nice. (Continued below)

Anonymous

OP 22w

Aaaaaaand she said this.

Anonymous

OP 22w

We’ve talked since this and we’ve reached a mild consensus; there was extreme miscommunication and misinterpretation on both of our ends, but I still need a second opinion. What my understanding was, is that she was saying it would never happen.

Anonymous

OP 22w

And this made no sense to me. Like I’m fine if it’s a possibility, and it’s not guaranteed, but what I was getting was that it would NEVER happen and idk if I’m crazy for thinking it seemed like that.

Anonymous

OP 22w

And I know and AGREE that 6-7 months is WAY too soon to know!!! But I just really didn’t like that it seemed like she was writing off the idea this early.

Anonymous 22w

yeah I really was afraid of that.

Anonymous

OP 22w

Well this sucks. If that’s the case I guess I’m absolutely screwed.

Anonymous 22w

fuuuuuucking knew it.

Anonymous 22w

I tried man.

Anonymous 22w

You def called it, thanks for helping.

Anonymous

#6 22w

I don’t want to get married until I’m like 35, of course the right girl would make me reconsider, but that’s the plan, and so many girls I’ve dated have not been happy when finding that out, but 🤷‍♂️

Anonymous 22w

Well yeah but that right girl probably doesn’t exist so I don’t say that part out loud, like I’ve been in in several relationships but only really truly loved like 2-3 girls in my life and even those I knew weren’t right for me

Anonymous 22w

But what I don’t understand is why do these girls want to be with me long-term like for marriage even though they know I don’t want them fully

Anonymous 22w

Like why can’t u just enjoy where ur at

Anonymous 22w

Yeah I agree ur doing it right, I just can’t imagine wanting to be with someone knowing ur not their first option

Anonymous

#8 22w

appreciate your perspective