Is he going down on you ? guide him to what feels best and try not to focus so much on the destination rather just enjoying it so you don’t get frustrated that you’re not reaching orgasm. if it’s him who’s getting frustrated affirm him and give positive feedback when something feels good

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Sounds like communication gap. Find a fun, playful way to express what you mean by faster (vs harder). Explore communicating not just orgasms but foreplay & mutual masturbation. And be patient when conveying or receiving feedback. Good luck.

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When I tell him to go faster he goes harder and etc, I try to enjoy just being in the moment but it’s when he’s the only one that ever finishes

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Yeah he goes down on me, and apologizes for not getting me to finish

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Have you tried/supplemented with doing it in doggy and rubbing your own clit to get you to finish? It’s not a fix all but could get you by. Or missionary with him running your clit, sometimes penetration at the same time can help

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