Anonymous #1 4w

yes bc my paycheck doesn’t go to bills to keep the lights on, his does. although i pay for all my stuff i own it’s not like it’s handed to me

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Anonymous #2 4w

basically! bc my parents have good jobs and his don’t…

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Anonymous OP 4w

right so he has no reason to be mad at you js bc u guys r in different financial situations. i understand he’s struggling and if he needed help or wanted to lessen going out to fancy places so he could save up, then that’s something to communicate. he should not be arguing or mad at u for ur parents financial situation

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Anonymous OP 4w

sounds kinda fucked up from his side like my parents are poor too but i have a good job now so like if he’s poor just make more money…

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Anonymous #3 4w

then i’ll look like im leaving him because he has no money.. i went into know his family was struggling but hes turning it back on me

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Anonymous OP 4w

it’s called financial manipulation, you’re leaving because he keeps throwing it in your face, the longer you stay the longer he’ll keep doing it

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Anonymous #2 4w

right.. he has a good job but that means he needs to drop out of school in order to work the hours he needs

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Anonymous OP 4w

get a better job than that, how long does he have until he finishes the degree?

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Anonymous #2 4w

he just started electrician school or whatever at a community college bc its all he can afford

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Anonymous OP 4w

so you can either live with it for like 2 years until he’s full fledged or leave him and find someone more for you, don’t feel bad for leaving if this is just going to become a cycle

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Anonymous #2 4w

i just feel so bad if i leave. i love him so much i just feel like he’s frustrated w the situation but attacks me bc im “well off”

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Anonymous OP 4w

feeling bad is something that’ll heal with time, you can always get back with him later once he sorts everything out, no one is going to judge you especially since it sounds like he’s also mentally ab*sing you (i’ll get banned so fast for that word)

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Anonymous #1 4w

right exactly

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Anonymous #2 4w

yes okay maybe later is a better idea

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Anonymous OP 4w

so break it off for now then you can always reevaluate in the future if he’s still the person you once knew (hopefully not)

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Anonymous #2 4w

thank you honestly. before this i was out of options and was just ready to take the blame for it

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Anonymous OP 4w

do not take the blame for it, all that’s going to do is make you feel bad and in a year you might wonder why yo stayed at all and maybe be in a worse spot

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Anonymous #4 4w

And if he doesn’t like that then uh, he got problems you should think about

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Anonymous #4 4w

Oh sorry I forgot to clarify I’m a dude but I don’t think that matters here

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Anonymous #4 4w

he got problems lol 😭😭

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Anonymous OP 4w

If he ain’t gonna change his attitude leave him. You don’t deserve someone making you feel bad about stuff you can’t control

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Anonymous #5 4w

LOL noted

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Anonymous #7 4w

“hes going to electrician school or whatever” like Jesus fucking Christ I can feel the class resentment from here my God OP go date another 1%er and save us all the agony of hearing you complain about people who have to work for what they have

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Anonymous #7 4w

that wasn’t even the point of the post dude, do you even read? she’s not upset that he wants to be an electrician, she’s upset that he’s blaming her for him not having money and she has money or i mean her parents do so how is any of that her fault?

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Anonymous #2 4w

And yet.. OP still makes it obviously clear she doesn’t know or gaf what her own partner is doing with his life

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Anonymous #8 4w

still doesn’t make it right for him to blame her for him not having money, is she supposed to ask her parents for money to help his ass? no that doesn’t make any sense

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Anonymous #2 4w

Where did OP say her boyfriend told her she should ask her parents for money to help his parents?

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Anonymous #8 4w

well you’re telling her to have compassion for a guy that throws it in her face that her parents are well off like she’s not rich, her parents are

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Anonymous OP 4w

Has the issue of money come up before or is him having to drop out a breaking point?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Also is he able to talk to his academic advisor to set up a pause on his education where he could potentially return, rather than simply dropping out?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Despite her not personally being rich, she’s privileged compared to him to not have her parents or other loved ones financially dependent on her. I think feeling some frustration or jealousy towards this privilege differential with someone you’re in a relationship in is understandable and deserving of compassion. Also, who says he’s throwing it in her face that her parents are rich? Maybe she’s throwing it in his face that his parents are poor.

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Anonymous #2 4w

OP and you just honestly seem very out of touch in this comment section. Even if OP isn’t able or willing to financially help her partner, she could at least have compassion for the shitty financial situation of someone she supposedly cares about.

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Anonymous #2 4w

And just for the record while I’m here I will say there is nothing in the world I hate more than a rich person who despises those who aren’t

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Anonymous OP 4w

You “love him so much”? Dude clearly loves his mom if he’s prepared to sacrifice his education to help her with her bills. How can you say you love him when not only are you not willing to provide him or his parents any of the financial support that they need, but you also don’t even have compassion for him and the sacrifices he is having to make to support his mom. Like forget love— do you even care about him? Does he and his hardships and struggles mean anything to you?

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Anonymous #8 4w

Yeah you’re absolutely right I honestly don’t know what to trust from this post cause it makes it sound like the whole picture then in the comments the poster is just shitting on her own boyfriends financial situation

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Anonymous #8 4w

Seconded.

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Anonymous #8 4w

hey so i do send him money, help him eat when he needs to and help him pay his bills!!

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Anonymous #8 4w

ofc he loves his mom? that’s his mom.. i never said i wasn’t willing to help him. it’s just frustrating when he turns it back on me because my parents are wealthy and his aren’t. it’s my fault my parents choose the route they did somehow

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Anonymous #4 4w

Not all relationships leads to marriage, some will help you discover new music 💔

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Anonymous #9 4w

i’m not sure everytime i try to talk about it he flips out, he wants to figure it out for himself so im letting him

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Anonymous #9 4w

him have to drop out to work this new job was the breaking point

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Anonymous #7 4w

i pay for everything i have! i pay my bills, phone, insurance, car, student loans, rent and groceries. i don’t ask him to go out to dinners every night, i don’t ask him to spend any money on me. i know he plans to be a electrician.. i just don’t understand the school stuff he has to go through. honey if i despised him because he struggles financially, i would not be here with him trying to help. again its my parents money, i work 2-3 jobs to make it possible for myself. my parents don’t help.

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Anonymous #8 4w

bc why would i throw it in their face that they struggle 😭😭like are we fr, if i cared about money i wouldn’t be here. i love him and i do not care about money so here i am. your making me out to be a spoiled brat who’s mad he’s broke. i’ve known he struggles even before we got together. again it’s my parents money, im not in any way privileged, i work for what i have.

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Anonymous #4 4w

i try to be there finically for him, if he needs to eat i send him money, if he’s short on bills for his phone i send him money. i can’t be with him and not help him out.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh that’s sweet. I think you’re already doing a lot, he should be quite grateful and I’d feel bad that my girlfriend is the one paying for my meals

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Anonymous #11 4w

half white but you did that 😘

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Anonymous OP 4w

Case in point

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Anonymous #2 4w

They probably put her through college

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Anonymous #5 4w

Class division 🔥

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Anonymous OP 4w

I understand that your parents money is not your money, and that you work for your own money— I’m saying that you’re still relatively privileged compared to your boyfriend to not have your parents financially dependent on you for their living expenses the way that they are for your boyfriend. You are not having to drop of out school in order to work so that you can provide for your parents’ living expenses.

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Anonymous #7 4w

No shade but it sounds like you made a lot of assumptions about OP and ran with it because when did OP say or do half these things?

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Anonymous #13 4w

EXACTLY thank you

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Anonymous OP 4w

What’s the other half?

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Anonymous #12 4w

Class warfare ✊

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