Anonymous #1 11w

Can you say more about that pls queen?

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Anonymous OP 11w

I’m a broke college student, so I don’t expect another broke college student to be paying for everything. I learned how to finance my money well and don’t mind paying, if I am able to afford it

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Anonymous #1 11w

Very fair. I'm almost out of college and thankfully doing well with $ and because of my age most guys who I'd be dating have big boy jobs already so it's a little different for me!

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Anonymous OP 11w

I don’t think it’s as different as you think, I’m a senior and about to graduate but never would expect a guy that has a big boy job to still spend on everything for me. This is very hypothetical if I were to date a guy with an actual job rn. I also view it as a way of them being able to like turn it back on me, but that’s just a fear of my own.

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Anonymous #1 11w

I understand that fear girl. Historically men have used dates/dinners/gifts as a way to buy or trade s*x from women. That is always a risk that exists between the lines of it all. I think the most important thing I remember when it comes to that is that good men and abusive/manipulative men exist everywhere regardless of money, class, etc. If a man simply isn't the type to do that, he simply won't.

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Anonymous #1 11w

Since I don't subscribe to the idea that women should put out because a guy buys them dinner, I don't do that. And I don't pay for my portion of the dinner to "get me out of having to put out" send some abstract signal to the guy that I don't want to have s*x after dinner. I'm very upfront with that kind of thing before a date even happens.

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Anonymous OP 11w

If a girl wants to go have crazy wild s*x after dinner or whatever that's totally her right! That's just not what I want so it's not what I do yk

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Anonymous #3 11w

That's only bc in the past I've never actually been treated to anything or ended up having to provide most things in a relationship

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Anonymous #3 11w

But I'm the type where if you pay for dinner I'll pay for drinks afterwards

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Anonymous #3 11w

So 50/50 in that sense

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Anonymous #3 11w

Oo very you buy the tickets and I'll buy the popcorn. I do like this kinda vibe

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Anonymous #3 11w

Everyone should be treated and spoiled and cared for! Like I personally show my love through gifts and kind acts so it's not like I'm saying the guy shouldn't be shown love or anything. I just wouldn't understand a guy who adamantly refused to take care of things every time when money was involved.

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Anonymous OP 11w

I totally get this because its the same for me! My love language is quality time and gift giving and my gifts have always been huge so in a way I want to feel that being reciprocated as welll

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Anonymous OP 11w

Bruh I’ve never been out with a guy so obviously I’d make it known that id never let them think that’s a way of them getting into my pants.

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Anonymous #1 11w

Period girl that kind of thing is important

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Anonymous #3 11w

Exactly

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