Ask Women on Sidechat | Why’s it assumed when I say I’ve never been in a relationship and that I’ve had really bad dating experiences with women that I must have done something wrong or I’m secretly incredibly toxic?

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Ask Women 1d

Why’s it assumed when I say I’ve never been in a relationship and that I’ve had really bad dating experiences with women that I must have done something wrong or I’m secretly incredibly toxic?

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Anonymous 1d

I mean it does depend on how many bad dating experiences you’ve had. Because at a certain point there’s a common denominator. That doesn’t mean it’s your fault but it could be something you’re doing without realizing. But generally if it’s a normal number I don’t think it should be assumed that.

Anonymous 1d

how old are you?

Anonymous 1d

Some may assume that but I probably wouldn’t, unless I got like bad vibes from you. I’ve never dated, and I know a lot of gorgeous girls who’ve never dated. It happens 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous

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OP 1d

it is at least a little bit unusual to have no experience with a relationship at 21, so there's presumably some reason. they shouldn't assume it's a bad one, necessarily.

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strawberry_hair 1d

Then would 4 bad actual dating experiences be too much?

Anonymous

#1 1d

I tend to get the side eye pretty consistently unfortunately I think my looks are a big reason for that as well though

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Anonymous

OP 1d

I don’t think so! Having bad experiences is part of life. Every experience is something to learn from as well. We could probably help you figure out if there’s actually a pattern as well!

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 15h

From what I’ve been told by friends the main pattern has been I go out with girls who are 10s on both ends of the scale and that typically I haven’t really done anything wrong or at least anything worthy of the treatment I receive which is another thing people I talk to seem to find suspicious 🧍🏽‍♂️