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Ask Women 12h
Update: I left. He put his hands on me. Thank you all for the kind messages :)
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How do I know when to leave? Like when do I know he isn’t gonna change? How many chances do I give him? He was my first for a lot of things…I just don’t know if he’s meant to be the one. Does that make me an awful person?
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Anonymous 12h

so sorry that happened to you, you should be proud that you got out! fck that guy!

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Anonymous 12h

Oh hell nah. Happy you’re out of that situation

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Anonymous 11h

proud of you for leaving. i hope you’re doing ok

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Anonymous 11h

I hope you’re alright. Great job for leaving, for many people it’s very difficult

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Anonymous 12h

W

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Anonymous 12h

Happy you got out and are safe!

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Anonymous 10h

Congrats girl! You’re strong as hell for that! Onwards and upwards

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Anonymous 9h

I’m so proud of you, I know that leaving is never easy but know that you are not alone. Stay strong and be true to yourself, remember that leaving and choosing yourself doesn’t make you a bad person. Be safe 🤍

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Anonymous 8h

Good job

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Anonymous 4h

I’m so glad you’re out. Take the time you need to heal. You are so strong for being able to leave.

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Anonymous 3h

Sexy!

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Anonymous 9h

Put his hands? Did he HIT you or like hold your shoulder

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Anonymous replying to -> onlyneedonepopcorn 10h

It took longer than it should have. I was so embarrassed that I let it happen and let it get that bad. Part of my still is but I’m so grateful I’m safe again.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

shes using a euphemism. she wouldnt say it if she meant he held her arm or smth casual

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 9h

Sounds like she’s being intentionally vague

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

thats what a euphemism is friend. less offensive language to communicate the same thing. similar to "they touched me" rather than "i was sexually assaulted/raped"

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 9h

Well why am I supposed to feel bad if I don’t know what happened. Someone touching you isn’t the same as being raped. I’ve been touched by women, I haven’t been raped

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

Okay first off that’s a crazy thing to ask. And a crazy thing to just assume. However since you’re so invested he hit me. And did some many other awful things that have caused the police and other services to be involved.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

ur being disingenuous & im not continuing this conversation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9h

That’s horrible. How is that crazy to say?

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 9h

No I’m not

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

look up what euphemism means & then we can talk

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 9h

I know what it is lol it just seemed weird. It’s an anonymous app gng

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

what does this being an anonymous app have to do w anything?😭 & if u know what a euphemism is then ud know that equating u being "touched" by other women casually isnt the same as someone using the euphemism of getting "touched" inappropriately as a way of saying they were sexually assaulted/raped. u can think its weird but going after op for using a euphemism to describe their experience w domestic violence is weirder

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

It’s none of your fucking business to know what happened, and you don’t need to know anything to have sympathy for somebody. I fear that’s common human dignity, and respect for someone. They don’t need to tell you the full story or explain themselves to someone who has no idea what they are talking about.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

If it’s nonconsensual sexual Contact then it is SA, you don’t need to go all the way for it to be considered assault.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

It wasn’t your business to ask. Why do you have to know what happened?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7h

Please don’t be embarrassed, it’s an extremely hard thing to get out of. Be very proud you were able to see the warning signs and get out as safely as you could. Many women don’t even get that far

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 7h

Because you’re essentially pushing an abuse victim to talk in further detail about said abuse when it’s very clear what she means. Stfu

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