Ask Women on Sidechat | alright so I asked my crush out and she legit sat in silence for 20 minutes, and then says let me sleep on it. wtf does this mean?

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Ask Women 1d

alright so I asked my crush out and she legit sat in silence for 20 minutes, and then says let me sleep on it. wtf does this mean?

Anonymous 1d

She could be trying to figure out if she can handle a relationship rn. Like if she has mental health issues, is really busy, hasn’t dated in a while or just got out of a relationship she might not be in a good place to have one. She could also be trying to consider if you’d be good for each other. Mutual attraction isn’t enough; you have to create a dynamic where you are helping/supporting the other’s growth, giving enough space for them to be their own person, and fostering trust.

Anonymous 1d

It’s a no.

Anonymous 1d

Means no

Anonymous 1d

Move on to someone new

Anonymous 1d

Couldn’t write it all on the post, so for my context I ended up asking what are we cause we both said we genuinely fw each other. We had a decent convo then I eventually asked

Anonymous 1d

UPDATE: WE ARE IN A TALKING STAGE RN, so she has a kid and has BPD and a lot mental issues going on currently. she didn’t want to make it official cause she didn’t want to ruin me

Anonymous

#3 1d

Like you really think she’d do the same if you looked ten times better?

Anonymous

#3 1d

Goddamn, coming from a girl it’s not all about looks

Anonymous

#4 1d

Oh so if he looked like her dream boyfriend she’d sit silently for 20 mins right?

Anonymous

#3 1d

She could, it depends on what’s on her mind, maybe she has a reason dating is a tough spot, maybe been hurt before and commitment is hard or other reasons

Anonymous

#4 1d

To me sitting silent is better than trying to nicely say something or putting in a fake act like “ooooh yeaaa um we…yeah we could go on a date I guess?” Silence means something

Anonymous

OP 1d

MISSION ABORT MISSION ABORT

Anonymous

#4 1d

Why abort

Anonymous

OP 1d

First off, the kid could be a plus, but if you two don’t work out, it will break your heart and the kids heart too. Like losing a parental figure. Second, if she is “mental,” then I would stay away. Relationships should be somewhat stable, and if she is not, you’re just introducing trouble into your life. So between those two, unless your looking for trouble and can afford to lose ALOT of money and be in constant stress till you two split of die, I would not go for it.