Ask Women on Sidechat | my ex sa’d and physically and emotionally abused me, i never pressed charges or anything like tell his family. we dated two years ago, i’m in a new relationship now. is it bad i’m over it? it obviously still makes me really upset, but it’s not on my mind

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my ex sa’d and physically and emotionally abused me, i never pressed charges or anything like tell his family. we dated two years ago, i’m in a new relationship now. is it bad i’m over it? it obviously still makes me really upset, but it’s not on my mind

Anonymous 2w

not on my mind as in i’m not thinking about it constantly and it doesn’t get me into fully panic attack mode anymore. sa and dv is awful though and i hate him for that and i think all abusers need to be in jail, but i’m honestly just not thinking about it anymore. i wish at the time i did something (like press charges) but i’m just over it now and i feel guilty for that but at the same time i’m at peace

Anonymous 2w

There can be real risks in trying to protect others. Sometimes the Tea App is my best friend.

Anonymous 2w

It’s hard to press charges after so much time has passed. Unfortunately the way lawyers will go after you can sometimes make you seem like a liar to a judge/jury (not saying you are one at all), and it would just be less expensive to heal without bringing the judicial system into it. Unless you have something like consistent camera footage of the physical stuff/rape kit or biological evidence after the SA it’s hard to get anything prosecuted

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#3 2w

It’s ok if you don’t do anything. Victims have no obligation to act. But if you want to protect others from him, there are multiple ways to do that. You could press charges, secretly leak his name, give his contact info to EDP Watch, leave an anonymous tip to police, etc.