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Why aren’t I desirable to men? Why don’t they approach me? I haven’t had a high school or college relationship am I cooked
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Anonymous 7w

Have you ever thought someone was attractive but either felt too nervous to ask them out or didn’t think it was the right time for you?

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Anonymous 7w

You can approach people too. No guy that thinks you’re attractive is going to say no to you if you ask them out.

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Anonymous 7w

Either your personality sucks or you’re not pretty. BUT it’s not hard to become pretty even if you’re not conventially attractive, it’s more about taking care of yourself and putting effort into your appearance. Unfortunately people will judge you before they get the chance to even know you, it’s just a first instinct. You might be doing something offputting personality wise too. What do you think?

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Anonymous 6w

ok i just read what #3 said. i wouldn’t say that’s all true. i’m a guy, 24. Say you are like atleast average when it comes to looks/personality and people talk to you. The only reason why ur not getting play is 1 of 2 things. 1, ur bad at flirting and aren’t dropping hints. 2, the dudes are lame asf socially and can’t pick up the hints. If you just drop a good hint or even ask explicitly, you’d score. closed mouths don’t get fed. u got this!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

I usually confess first and they reject me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

I usually approach them first but I’m still rejected

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

I think I have a great personality. I’m extroverted and like cracking jokes. People usually talk to me unprompted just not romantically

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

I know it sounds mean, but are you pretty? Maybe you’re just going for the wrong type of guy idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

I dunno? Ugly to one is pretty to another

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

I’m sorry but are you fat? I’m just trying to give you an answer of some sort? If you’re average looking then it’s probably just the type of guy you’re going for

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

Is there a difference between fat and curvy? I could always be fitter (working on that) but I’m not round all over

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Yeah there’s a difference, I’m more asking if you’re 300 lbs and 5’ 2”. What kind of guy do you normally go for?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

I’m 5’9 and honestly bare minimum I’d think.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Then it’s probs the type of guys you go for I rlly don’t know what to tell u

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

What do you mean types I don’t ask for much

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Guys with freakishly high standards, guys who don’t normally date, guys who like to hoe around, guys that already like another girl

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

I guess. Single life for me then

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

That’s not true because I usually approach first and still get rejected

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