Ask Women on Sidechat | Did anyone else hate the “boys mature slower thang girls thing” growing up it made me feel so awkward bc I was very much in line with guys my age, and even dated a guy younger and everyone acted like it was weird bc I would be “WAY more mature”

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Ask Women 1w

Did anyone else hate the “boys mature slower thang girls thing” growing up it made me feel so awkward bc I was very much in line with guys my age, and even dated a guy younger and everyone acted like it was weird bc I would be “WAY more mature”

Anonymous 1w

It’s a true biology fact, but it’s taken out of the context. It’s not talking about conscious and social interactions as those are sociological in that biological. Sadly, this happens with a lot of biology facts, including ones based on the different sexes.

Anonymous 1w

Nah I think it’s a pedophilic lie—an excuse for creepy older men to prowl high schoolers

Anonymous 1w

girls mature faster because they’re expectations are different than a boys. i hate when parents say the phrase “girls are so much harder than boys” because it’s basically admitting the double standards and set expectation differences. it also reveals that at least one of the gendered children is being overlooked.

Anonymous 1w

When I was 16 I went out with a 15 y/o and some people called me weird for it. Like he was only 8 months younger than me? 😭

Anonymous 1w

So the truly bad part about men maturing later is the fact it is used as an excuse for bad behavior we can expect anyone to understand and comprehend. Maybe it makes sense for some lack of emotional maturity temporarily (also the way we raise men), but their personality is the issue, not caring enough about their impact on others when they know they have harmed someone and then saying it’s because they’re boys and they take longer to mature, they refuse to man up

Anonymous 1w

i’ve read some comments about a restudy on the differences between the sexes - but really why is the research of biological differences between the sexes so important. in the past, any research focused on the topic has always viewed as finding a hierarchy and excuses to apply social constructs that end up hurting anyone and putting them in the box. the only time the differences are relevant is for medical research and treatments < where medicine has always failed AFAB people and POC >

Anonymous 1w

And like no we were basically on the same level. I know there is some evidence this is a thing but it very much depends person to person and I feel like more often than not it’s just used to excuse boys bad behavior and pressure girls to take on more responsibility than their male peers

Anonymous 1w

I had to mature faster cuz my parents died and I had to live like I was on my own. Most of my friends were older girls or dudes

Anonymous 1w

Hormonally, I think maturity happens at a different time, but hormones don’t just… determine everything. Hormones determine a lot of things, don’t get me wrong, but people seem to assume (or want to use as an excuse) that hormonal maturity is the same as emotional and mental maturity. Sure, guys might finish growing after women and might be a little less emotionally mature generally, but I’ve met many guys younger than me who are more mature than guys AND girls older than me, and vice versa.

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OP 1w

We have to remember that the current science is fallible and often influenced by people unchecked biases. For example, it’s actually been known since at least 2019 that Jeffrey Epstein influenced many scientific fields with his networking tactics, particularly the field of evolutionary psychology (essentially the study of human nature)

Anonymous

#5 1w

People with*

Anonymous

#5 1w

We have to question our assumptions about basic human nature because in many cases they’ve been shaped from the top by those who want to make the world in their image

Anonymous

#3 1w

No fr I just saw a bunch of people attack a girl online for going out with a 15 yr old, she’s 17 and one grade above him and multiple people called her a groomer and a pedophile. Like hello?

Anonymous

#7 1w

Also, those people who shame others for dating one year younger than them are crazy. You date one year younger, you’re “creepy”. You date the same age, you’re “boring”. You date anyone older than you, you “have a fetish”. People today are so stupid it appalls me. And I also think the science should be restudied. Yes, maybe the results will be similar, but I wonder how true it actually would be that men and women of the same age act if they’re at varying levels of maturity, and if that’s due to

Anonymous

#7 1w

hormones, mental maturity, or just the way they were raised.

Anonymous

#7 1w

No it’s insane. I have both had people call me a pedophile bc my bf is 2 years younger than me and ALSO had people call my bf a pedo bc he’s significantly taller than me😭

Anonymous

#7 1w

I agree we need to restudy. We know how deeply sexism has been in our science for so long

Anonymous

#5 1w

i do think there’s a LITTLE truth to it, but i feel like it mainly just speaks to the smart, safety-mindedness that most girls/women will ALWAYS exceed boys/men in. idk if that makes sense lol im kinda tired.

Anonymous

#8 1w

Being traumatized by society into needing to be hypervigilant around others due to the violence perpetuated against you doesn’t make you more mature. I understand where you’re coming from but this is also part of the pedophilic lie that the patriarchy imparts on people from a young age. The idea that “going through shit” takes away your youth, and therefore permits greater suffering than a child should endure, is the biggest part here.

Anonymous

#6 1w

i’m glad to see people are able to recognize biodeterminisim without knowing what it is by definition. your 100% correct and this is the same reasoning used behind eugenics. my issue with this factoid is the way it’s used to feel superior. if one truly believes that men are intellectually inferior to women, than the natural reaction should be to uplift men as if being a man were a disability. instead the common reaction is to use it to feel superior, in which case you are not only falling for-

Anonymous

#11 1w

-eugenics style agrugemns, but your also choosing to respond to what you consider to be a fact of inferiority with bigotry, hating the person who is allegedly lesser than you. it’s just so gross it’s a circlejerk of people falling for falsehoods and using them to justify hate, story as old as time

Anonymous

#8 1w

The safety-mindedness is not a natural part of development. Girls wouldn’t always exceed boys in this area in a culture where the abuse of girls isn’t stressed as a commonality.