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Guy here, looking for advice. I really have tried my whole life to be kind and just be myself, but for the past few years it’s led to nothing but rejection. I can take it, but after so many times it makes me suicidal and feel awful. Idk how to keep going
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Anonymous 14h

Well, of course a good option is therapy. But also knowing it’s perfectly okay to feel sad about being rejection, but also know rejection is very normal. It happens. Continue to be yourself though. It takes more than kindness to lure ppl in and you’ll find that one person who’s wanting to know more about you eventually

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Anonymous 7h

Therapy would be really healthy for you, also finding social hobbies you enjoy. Wanting and not having romantic love or even just the physical stuff (if that’s your goal) is tough, like it sucks donkey dick but it also shouldn’t be the end of your world.

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Anonymous 12h

Agree with #1, but also there's more to life than a romantic partner. Easier said than done of course, but it might be good to find hobbies and a friend group and stuff like that so your desire to live isn't hung up on women...

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Anonymous 9h

Agree with all of this, and if you want advice you’d need someone who has actually seen you interact with woman to chime in. Strangers aren’t going to have a good read on you specifically, even if they do that’s more luck than anything because we haven’t observed you acting natural. You can’t just explain what you perceived to someone, they need to be a neutral third party

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Anonymous 3h

I feel you. I am the same way as I do crave love and physical affection so I’m not sure if I’m in any better spot to give you advice but here is what I’ll say. Don’t pour all ur attention on finding that bc the more you chase, the more it’s gonna get away from you

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7h

If you’re in school look for clubs you like. If you’re not, look at your local library system for clubs and events. Meetup/facebook events are also good resources. Find your people, then you’re better set up to find your person too.

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