i mean i think it’s good advice but people treat it as an all or nothing thing

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I haaatte the “if they wanted to they would” shit honestly. Should be common sense that we don’t always do the things we want to do or feel like we want to

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I mean it’s good advice in of itself. Ppl just make it an all or nothing on every single aspect. But the point of a relationship is still WANTING to do those things, and not being forced to. If your relationship is forced it’s not one that’s meant to be in. So it’s not fake what’s fake is entertaining someone you have no actual feelings for or no care to actually make happy. couples are going to do things bc they want to see them happy

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I think it’s useful as an outlook because the point is if you want a relationship where they text you every day for example, you need to find someone who is willing and able to do that instead of trying to wait for/ force someone to do that for you

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How exactly is telling people to expect basic communication and respect from their partners fake advice?😂😂😂 The screenshot you posted says that sometimes people “want to” but don’t because of past experiences, fears and trauma. So if your past experience is stopping you from treating your current partner with respect, how is it your partner that is “destroying relationships” for expecting better? Like what is this podcast bro logic?😭😂

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I think that the yy post and the insta post are talking about two very different things. The video with the studies, talking about the initial approaching someone, to demonstrate how you show you like them in the first place. But in OP’s post you’re talking about dating, showing you love the person and care about them, but in a relationship.

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