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Ask Women 24w
I’m reading a book rn about a woman who pretended to be a man for a bit and I can’t help but be turned off by sex with men if they see sex as mundane as pissing into a gutter. The way her conversations with men went was along the lines of women being dis-
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Anonymous 24w

-Posable trash in marriages. Mind you the men she was speaking to never once thought she was a woman. She passed perfectly as male. It disturbs me that my desire for making love and having rough, raw passionate sex with a lot of intimacy is probably not the same for my partner. It’s another function he has to satisfy and is devoid of any real intimacy.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

That’s how I view it tbh and I talked to my therapist about it.. she said something along the lines of “I can’t say much because of confidently but I can tell you this.. I have male clients and there is a lot of vulnerability they feel too. It’s not just woman that experience it.” It helped me a little bit to see some men actually do view it as connection and intimacy .. not just a physical act to get off

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 24w

Hmmm. Yeah a part of me wants to generalize men for the sake of ease as being animals like that but truthfully i want them to genuinely want sex for connection and not just as a means to get off. Its hard to see it because no one on their right mind is going to explain their mentality around sex ig

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 24w

Yeah, I still struggle to believe it. I just hope one day I can meet a man where it shows it’s for connection

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