I think the first question to ask is; what makes you depend on a woman?
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Anonymous#114w
Loving a woman makes me feel more valued and happy than anything ever has. To be selfless in that way just felt like a part of me was being useful beyond words, being that important to someone was everything
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AnonymousOP14w
Hm okay, so a sense of purpose/value/usefulness?
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Anonymous#114w
Yes
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AnonymousOP14w
Why don’t you feel valued just in your life? Why do you need a woman to make you feel useful?
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Anonymousstrawberry_hair14w
Nothing I’ve pursued in my own life for myself has worked out or brought me nearly as much purpose and joy. It’s all either fallen apart, just didn’t work out, or I just wasn’t successful.
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AnonymousOP14w
It sounds like you don’t know who you are outside of relationships. Things sometimes go wrong in life, but it sounds like you are relying on them to feel happiness
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Anonymousstrawberry_hair14w
Yea that sounds about right
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Anonymousstrawberry_hair14w
So do I just pursue my own interests until I eventually feel happy?
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AnonymousOP14w
Basically you find other ways to be happy without relying on women. Spend time with friends, listen to music, play video games. Do anything that makes you happy