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Does anyone have any tips to calm down and not get annoyed as much? Usually I’m super easy going but recently I’ve been so irritable and frustrated with everything, which is super unlike me.
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Anonymous 8w

imo, emotions like anger are our bodies way of demanding change. what needs to change? is it internal or external? is it in your control / sphere of influence? i think the best way to reduce anger and frustration is to answer those questions and make the necessary changes. that's just my experience though so idk

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Anonymous 8w

slow deep breaths, close your eyes or walk away for a bit if you can, turn on some relaxing music, get yourself a snack. this is what usually helps me

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Anonymous 8w

Get a fidget thing to stimulate your brain. I tend to use my necklaces but I need another squishy/stress toy. Learn some hobbies on ur side as well

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Anonymous 8w

Make sure you’re eating and sleeping and not overdoing the caffeine. I like to chew gum, so I can just chew harder when I’m mad instead of saying some bullshit. Sometimes I’ll lowkey have to roleplay being someone very calm. Sounds insane, it pretending to be someone else helps when I’m getting desperate

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Anonymous 8w

Read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Changed my life about things I can and can’t control

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Anonymous 8w

Gabapentin 🤤🤤🤤

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Anonymous 8w

Sometimes I get in moods where I get very close to doing irrational actions to try and get rid of annoyances. Whenever that happens, I like to write down my exact thought process and read it over again. It usually helps me realize how silly I’m being.

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Anonymous 8w

Food

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Anonymous 8w

Has something changed recently that could be leading to the irritability

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 8w

also snacks and water and sleep and hygiene. before problem solving comes self care

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 8w

I actually have read it! That and Seneca’s “on the shortness of life”

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 8w

I did have two losses in my family so maybe it’s a grief thing

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Could definitely be it. How have you been dealing with your grief otherwise?

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