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why do *some* of y'all refer to men as "men" but women as "girls" in the same sentence/context
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Anonymous 5w

I feel like when talking about guys “men” is just more causal than saying “boys” (seems childish) but when we talk about ourselves, “girls” is more casual and not childish because hanging with the “girls” is common lingo, and “women” is too formal imo

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Anonymous 5w

I do this unintentionally, I call men men, dudes, guys, etc and women women, ladies, girls, etc because tbh feel like I gotta mix it up or a sound boring. Nothing else to it

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Anonymous 5w

Am I the reason for this post? I do this constantly and have frequented Ask Women for the last few days, lol. I have no reasoning. I think maybe it’s because I think in terms of ‘girls and guys’, but most posts here use the word ‘men’?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

so is it ingroup vs outgroup?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

"guys" is age-neutral to be fair

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I think you’re reading into it to much

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

what do you mean, "ingroup vs. outgroup" is basically a distilled version of what you said

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I don’t think it is, actually. She mentioned the nuance of the meanings and the common usage, neither of which is tribalistic

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

is "hanging w/ the girls" not in-group lingo not antagonistic towards outsiders per se, but it differentiates

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I suppose so? But it’s very mild

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