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Ask Women 7w

I’m not a parent, but if I was, I feel like not wanting your child to have sex physically in your house is a fair boundary. Boy or girl?

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60 votes

Anonymous 7w

personally i don’t really get that. idc if my kid has sex and i would rather them do it in my house than somewhere unsafe

Anonymous 7w

My parents had that boundary with me, never had sex in there house. I’ve made out but I also come from a household where knocking on doors is a 2second warning before someone opens it.

Anonymous 7w

Totally get that. Kids won’t respect it, but it’s how the cookie crumbles🤣 I wasn’t allowed to have boys in my room, I won’t let my kids either. Did I have sex on the basement couch instead? Yup😭

Anonymous 7w

Idk id rather have them do this than get arrested for doing it in a car

Anonymous 6w

Teenagers are going to have sex whether you allow them to or not, and they’re going to do it WHERE they want to, whether it be on the living room couch because you won’t allow them in their room or their room. They will do it in a car if you don’t allow the house, most places don’t allow you to book a hotel room until you’re 21, and definitely not under 18. That doesn’t leave a lot of places and they’re GOING to do it. It’s a shitty sacrifice to make as a parent, but it’s either that or

Anonymous 7w

I never saw the point bc it creates an awkward environment for them. Mine never allowed sex in their house and as a result I lost mine in the backseat of a car

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Anonymous 7w

I think that’s pretty unreasonable.

Anonymous 7w

Like ideally yeah but id know that wouldnt be respected lol. I just dont wanna see or hear it

Anonymous 7w

You sound like a fucking jackass. Also why are you thinking about your kids having sex. Fucking creep

Anonymous

#1 7w

Hell nah. Get a hotel that you pay with with your own money use a car like everybody else, or go to their house.

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 7w

Then I guess we just have different potential parenting styles

Anonymous

#4 7w

Whats wrong with you?

Anonymous

OP 7w

That seems unreasonable for teens no? Especially if you aren’t paying it. And not ideal or safe for them on their own

Anonymous

#2 7w

I don’t know if I could handle walking in on my child having sex ,emotionally speaking. So I would argue at that , that boundary is one item setting for myself that I would hold my child respects

Anonymous

OP 7w

I mean realistically, most parents can’t emotionally fathom their children doing anything that signals them growing older. My parents took years to emotionally fathom that I started dating and didn’t want me dating at all. But realistically as parents you have to come to terms with kids simply…not being kids anymore. But to simply teach them the safeties of everything they encounter

Anonymous

#2 7w

I’m perfectly fine with doing and taking the steps I need to take to come to terms with my potential child growing older. I’m just not fine with the potential of me walking in on my child having sex in my house.

Anonymous

#2 7w

It may also make your children more sneaky and less trusting in the future with things. I know when I lost mine I had to continue to sneak myself out bc my parents didn’t allow sex let alone guys in their house

Anonymous

#2 7w

I would allow guys in the house. And open communication about sex in general.

Anonymous

OP 7w

Have them keep their door locked but also as a parent set the boundary that if someone is coming over, that you’re alerted of it beforehand. That way you’re at least aware of the potential of it happening so you aren’t barging in

Anonymous

#2 7w

I guess I’d be a healthy medium parent. They’re allowed but I need to know beforehand. As much as it is my house and I’m allowed my boundaries, my children should still feel safe to experiment sexuality or sex in their own home they also live in. But I’ll ofc supply them with yk…condoms and stuff because I want them to be as safe as possible

Anonymous

#8 7w

My parents also never gave me the sex talk. When I started dating my mom would just say “no drugs, no drinking, no sex”

Anonymous

OP 7w

if you don’t wanna walk in on them then knock before entering rooms. chances are they’re gonna do it either way and esp if i have a daughter i’d rather them be close by than in a random hotel incase she’s uncomfortable or something happens

Anonymous

#1 7w

Well, that’s why I’m me and you are you

Anonymous

#4 7w

Because your kids are going to have sex eventually when they grow up??? It’s something you have to consider

Anonymous

#9 6w

Somewhere unsafe

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Anonymous

OP 6w

Maybe but I’d rather my children be safe than not.

Anonymous

#9 6w

Who said I wasn’t gonna allow him to have sex in general. I said I wasn’t gonna allow them to have sex in my house

Anonymous

#9 6w

Seriously OP is such a jackass

Anonymous

#4 6w

You’re a jackass