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What boundaries should there be between my girl and her gay best friend?
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Anonymous 13w

So basically you have no trust in your partner and need to confront that first and that’s the real question

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Anonymous 13w

Boundaries aren’t about your gf and her friend, but what you’ll do if they are broken. So the boundary would be if your girlfriend begins hugging and kissing her bestie, then you’ll break up with her. In this case, I think communication about what will make you feel uncomfortable is more appropriate. You can’t do anything about it, but if she cares she’ll appreciate your opinion on the friendship and change her own behavior. If not, then shucks.

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Anonymous 13w

Whatever boundaries they set

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Anonymous 13w

god this is embarrassing

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Anonymous 13w

As a religious person, possession is not at all what God wants for marriage. That is oppressive and controlling. You can argue that a woman must respect her husband but what you would really be suggesting is she must fear you. Fear comes from punishment and respect comes from a pure desire to honor someone. Check your intentions because there’s no fear in love and marriage is not meant to be oppressive.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

Why should another guy be setting the boundaries lol… I believe my girl and I should set the boundaries…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Because that’s their friendship….not yours?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

Lol this has gotta be ragebait. It’s our relationship that necessitates the boundaries.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

You can set a boundary with your gf but you cannot control their friendship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

If you cannot think of said boundaries by yourself then you shouldn’t be setting boundaries. The dudes gay

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

Lol wtf so there should be no boundaries? You’re high lol.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

You clearly don’t trust your gf with a gay friend….kind of sad

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13w

Something like “I feel uncomfortable when you’re alone at your besties house after 10 pm.” Could result in either her not doing that, or shifting behavior to soothe your worries such as texting you updates or hanging out with other people there too. Either way that’s her decision, the only thing you can control is how you convey your emotions and how you react to her behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13w

Tried to reply to a comment but it wouldn’t let me.. but it applies to this situation even if you’re just dating rn

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