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How to deal with a jealous boy mom, bc my bfs mom is about to send me into cardiac arrest. Ever since I’ve moved in with him it’s been a huge fucking problem. “She doesn’t do anything”, “her makeup is always a mess” shit like that
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Anonymous 4w

No offence but is your bf defending you? Think about if this is a deal breaker bc at the end of the day if you’re with him she will be around, unless he cuts her off.

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Anonymous 4w

Mind you, I do ALOT, I clean, I work, (I don’t like cooking so he does) I basically do a lot of “wifely duties” as a gf.. but she always has a problem. But never talks to me, always behind my back… literally earlier telling my bf how unorganized my desk was with my makeup n shit, and how I have “so much” and brought up the fact all her stuff is organized neatly in her bathroom. Mind you, I’m using a desk, not a vanity, with a makeup organizer she bought for me.. with makeup samples she’s given

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Anonymous 4w

Ok as an adultier woman I’m gonna tell you right off the bat, nothing is going to work unless HE’S the one to put in her place and he tells her to respect you. He’s the one that needs to do the stopping his mom because only when it comes from him will she take it seriously. He needs to show her 1) he is going to defend his gf which means 2) she needs to respect you or there will be consequences from his end (going low or no contact, not seeing him unless it includes you, things like that. The b-

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

To me—, while I try to keep it organized but it’s hard with minimal space and no drawers… but comparing my space to her FULLSIZE BATHROOM, with 2 sinks, bathtub/shower and toilet.. HUGE mirror, both sides having drawers… that her husband isn’t even allowed to use.. so he shares a bathroom with me and my bf.. we are at our wits end, but it’s so much cheaper to rent from them then an actual apartment rn.. we want to save for a house. It’s just idk, she’s so two-faced and I try my hardest tobe nice

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

-oundary setting needs to come from him because not only is it his mom, but it’s he that needs to show her that his gf is to be respected as it’s who he’s choosing (even if temporarily) as his partner. He should be the one telling her to stop talking about you, criticizing you, comparing you, and all of that bullsh*t. If he isn’t willing to and hasn’t, I’m afraid you may have a momma’s boy on your hand and in that case it’s almost always usually better to just let that go.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Yes he defends me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

He defends me, he’s only staying at that house because of his parents health, he can’t even get himself to say he loves his mom, so he has no problem cutting contact. He’s afraid she’s gonna kill his dad, by making him do everything, they are very old

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