Ask Women on Sidechat | why are men the way they are😭 my bf will talk about ex’s and share about past experiences casually all the time and i don’t care but ill make the smallest comment and somehow it’s “bop lore”. save me.

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Ask Women 9w

why are men the way they are😭 my bf will talk about ex’s and share about past experiences casually all the time and i don’t care but ill make the smallest comment and somehow it’s “bop lore”. save me.

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Anonymous 9w

nah thats disrespectful asf call him out

Anonymous 9w

That’s crazy. If I’m gonna talk about past experiences with exes bc it’s what I have to go off of, my partner should have the same exact room to do the same thing. Like we’re all people and we only have so much to go off of.

Anonymous 9w

that’s so unacceptable, if he doesn’t stop when you call him out he clearly has no respect for you, you deserve to be treated like a whole person with a life outside of him! you deserve better

Anonymous 9w

as a gen z who hears “bop lore” being thrown around so much on social media nowadays, i feel like it’s a term watered down just to allow men to shame women for having prior experience while avoiding repercussions. it’s inherently rooted in reinforcing purity culture, and i don’t think your bf realizes that he might have some subconscious misogyny to unpack

Anonymous 9w

Girl he does not respect you. If he’s essentially calling you a ho everytime you abide experiences he’s not for you. Just dump him you deserve way better.

Anonymous 9w

you need to have a serious conversation with him. he doesn’t respect you. he either needs to get his shit together FAST. (a serious, thought out apology in addition to change in his actions) or you need to break up with him

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#2 9w

exactly! like i had a life before him😭

Anonymous

hellraiser 9w

i do..

Anonymous

#5 9w

THATS WHAT IM SAYING! i went on a whole fucking tangent about this with my friends the other day! thank you! and you did word this phenomenally

Anonymous

#5 9w

I think we are giving op boyfriend way too much credit of innocence. They know what the term means and that’s why they use it.

Anonymous

#7 9w

it’s one thing if he just doesn’t want to hear about it because it makes him insecure (in which case he needs to own up to that and ask you nicely to discuss that without telling stories about exes) but instead of admitting his faults he’s insulting and belittling you for no reason. that’s simply unacceptable.