Anonymous #2 1w

the fact i don’t clean and vacuum twice a week tbh

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Anonymous #1 1w

that i “do nothing” even though i work full time (overtime honeslty cause im forced to) and i come home and cook and clean when i can but he thinks only i should be doing it so he doesn’t

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Anonymous OP 1w

he could clean too.. not sure if he knows this epic life hack

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Anonymous #3 1w

also vacuuming twice a week is like ? more than enough lwk? idk any adult household that vacuums over twice a week, majority are below.. if he has such an issue he can man tf up and turn the vacuum on too every once and a while

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Anonymous OP 1w

f this effing guy bro

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Anonymous #3 1w

it’s not your fault, girl. you’re pulling so much weight! you work and provide money to the household, you cook, you clean, what does he do? it seems (from the minimal info i have) he doesn’t help much. probably reconsider chore distribution and his willingness to help you. sounds like dead weight

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah that’s absurd. To me it seems like the person who needs to change is him. Does he come from an uber conservative / traditional family or something?

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Anonymous OP 1w

Why is he upset that you’re not vacuuming? Does he also work full-time and do the vacuuming most of the time? Does he do the rest of the cleaning and he only asked you to help twice a week? Does he feel that the responsibilities are unequal? I have a hard time thinking that this is just as simple as not vacuuming twice a week. Could you provide more context?

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Anonymous #2 1w

he also works full time yes, no he’s never vacuumed once. he also has never cleaned any surface in the house i do it. the only things i have asked him to do are the dishes, because i cook. other than that i also grocery shop every week. i definitely have way more responsibilities and he complains that i don’t do anything.

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Anonymous #1 1w

his dad treats his mom the same way

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Anonymous #3 1w

yea he helps with dishes, that’s about it tbh

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Anonymous #3 1w

i do it once a week or once every other week depending on if we have something going on on the weekend, but lowkey we are home to sleep during the week and we don’t have any animals or kids so realistically where is the mess of every floor coming from? yk?

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah that makes a lot of sense. If he means a lot to you and is a good guy otherwise I think it’s worth a conversation then. Maybe something like “I know this is how you grew up so maybe you don’t know any other way to have a relationship but this doesn’t and never will work for me. You need to treat me like an equal and with respect or we can’t be together”

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Anonymous #1 1w

That’s my take anyway

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