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Ask Women 21h
I’m rlly stuck on the fact that I am unable to orgasm and it really makes me feel broken. I’ve been masturbating for years and find it pleasureful but there’s no big release, and I recently became sexually active and still can’t. Anyone in a similar boat?
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Anonymous 19h

I was in the exact same situation… the only way I can finish is with a vibrator and I’ve had no luck any other way

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Anonymous 21h

are you on any medications that could be affecting it? ssris, stimulants, vasoconstrictors?

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Anonymous 19h

definitely explore toys and try different stimulation! i believe in you!

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Anonymous 19h

For me it was actually being hydrated and figuring out if I liked insertion or clitoral play more

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Anonymous 17h

Hi OP. Think of it terms of sensors. You have certain censors that get a release but want a bigger one. You can only do so much alone but with a partner they need to know foreplay so that you both dance together and explore the sensors of both. Then a big release happens. If that occurs and still you don’t get a release then see why and what sensors don’t work.

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 20h

I am on medications, but not any ssris and I brought this up to my psychiatrist and she said none of the ones I’m on should affect that

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 17h

Overall it’s really about mapping the sensors and what triggers them.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

have you tried using a vibrator or exploring more with clit stimulation? i knew one girl who could never orgasm until she figured out how to lift up her clitoral hood and really get that direct stimulation

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 16h

I’ve tried a little bit, I really enjoy clit stimulation and it feels amazing, I’ve just never gotten that big release. It often gets to be overstimulating and then doesn’t feel good anymore

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16h

Thank u!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

that sounds really frustrating. would you say that there’s a drop off in mood/ arousal before it gets to feel overstimulating like could that be causing it ? or does the feeling of overstimulation just come out of no where then it becomes unenjoyable?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

my best advice would to just be keep trying different things and making sure your body is relaxed and that you are in the right headspace. putting too much pressure on it can make it worse.

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 14h

I’m not really sure. Idk if this is weird but as a kid I’d often just rub that place cause it felt good (obviously not in a sexual way) but it would always be like that then, just suddenly not feeling good anymore, so idk if that’s the same thing that happens now, but I feel the pleasure is more intense now that I’m grown

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 14h

Thank you for the advice :)

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