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Ask Women 3w

I’ve never been in a relationship (was a sheltered child, now socially stunted adult). I could use like older sister advice or even just good vibes cause it’s hard to just be ok with it sometimes 💕

Anonymous 3w

I’m in the same boat and I don’t have older siblings to get guidance from so it’s been such a hellhole learning it for myself in adulthood. I’m out here getting lusted over, sexualized, ghosted, and heart broken when I just wanna feel love like everyone else. I’m with you sis

Anonymous 3w

If you do wish to date you have to actually put the effort in too. I feel like women who have never dated, sometimes believe that a man should fall on to their lap subconsciously in which that could happen, but I feel like especially an adult dating, women should also put effort in getting the man that they would want. Also don't view romance like the movies or books because I also see women similar to you wanting a fantasy then getting very disappointed when that isn't the reality,

Anonymous 3w

enjoy it bc i'm out here getting my heart broken

Anonymous

#3 3w

But that doesn't mean you'll never be able to date an amazing person and still have an amazing relationship.

Anonymous

#3 3w

Literally none of us expect to not put in zero effort lol

Anonymous

#4 3w

Idky the downvote and if it doesn't apply to you then it doesn't. I knew people who expected the love of their life to just appear while they sat at home 💀

Anonymous

#3 3w

I get what you’re saying and while this might be fine for general dating advice this isn’t really helpful for those of us just trying to get our feet on the ground. We dont know how even if we want to. Like if putting yourself out there and meeting people is part of the journey, we are just now figuring out how to get the gps on. You get what I mean? Dumb it down even more. What is flirting? How do I flirt? How do I know when I’m being flirted with? Stuff like that

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Its genuine advice though? Again I have had friends who never dated in their life and one of their first mistakes is having the expectation of just being approached to score a date. Effort goes both ways. I apologize if my advice wasn't helpful towards you but it clearly helped someone under this post..

Anonymous

OP 3w

Plus im like the only one that bothered to even try to give advice so im not sure what you're looking for...

Anonymous

#3 3w

I just told you what I’m looking for and I never said it was bad advice. Actually I said it was fine. I just needed you to dumb it down even more for those of us that are further behind than you’re thinking

Anonymous

OP 3w

Okay, honestly I wish your question was more specific then. But since you're looking for more specific advice I guess with flirting don't come off too overly eager. Slow down, don't overshare early on (like telling him your life story or about the pimple on your back)

Anonymous

OP 3w

Guys (or girls) seems to love teasing or a little banter so don't be shy but also don't insult, like pointing out obvious insecurities is a no go

Anonymous

#3 3w

So what are like obvious signs someone is into you? Cause I can’t seem to tell the difference between someone being nice and someone being flirty (I’m also in the neurodivergent thread for some context 😬)