Anonymous #1 23w

i just want a relationship

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Anonymous OP 23w

Do you find it pretty easy to come up with something to talk about in a group of men, or with women not in your age range or dating pool? What I’m getting at is whether this is more of a basic social skills challenge, or more about the nervousness that comes when you’re trying not to mess up a chance with a woman

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Anonymous #1 23w

i definitely feel more comfortable when talking to someone who isnt a female or is a female that isnt in my dating pool. its just an issue with women i find attractive

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Anonymous OP 23w

In that case, it’s probably why people keep telling you to be confident, because that’s the short version of what you’ll need. But to elaborate, I think you could build confidence by getting more experience in talking to women in your dating pool- which may be made easier if you practice that without any intention of asking them out. Expectations and fear of failure are a lot of what drives anxiety, so if you talk with women without a goal in mind, you can practice with less anxiety

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Anonymous OP 23w

I do think it’s actually pretty normal to be nervous around people you find attractive, even if you’re telling yourself not to be.

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