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If you have friendzoned a guy what is keeping them in the friendzone and what would they need to do to get out of it

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Anonymous 1d

Friendzoning is made up. If I was friends with a guy and did not want to date him nothing he did could change my mind.

Anonymous 19h

Bro I’m not trying to be mean, but don’t bother. If she’s gonna like you, she’ll like you. You can’t make her. Tailoring yourself to her wants in a relationship is immature. You can’t do that just to get a girl, and a girl who doesn’t even want you at that. Why can’t you just be happy with a close friendship?

Anonymous 1d

Not a woman but if you try to get out of the friend zone it always works. They won’t be your friend either.

Anonymous 1d

If I am friends with a guy and don’t want to date him that’s it. No amount of convincing will change that

Anonymous 1d

There is this girl I like F25 and I’m M20 we’ve known each other since we were kids but we’ve gotten rlly close these past two yrs. I haven’t shot my shot but the age gap and our “family oriented acquaintances” is what is keeping me in that zone. I think with more time I could get out of it but idk if time is on my side. She’s also taken strong liking to me as a friend but I want it to be something more

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 1d

But can I ask what separates a friend from someone you want to be with. For me I want to marry someone who I can be friends with. That makes our relationship that much stronger

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Anonymous

OP 1d

There are friends who I might have similarities with, but I need someone to meet all of my expectations in a relationship. I don’t need my friends to want kids. I need my partner too. I can be friends with someone who has the same goals as me and they still may not be an option for me.

Anonymous

OP 1d

That sounds like a better way to ask your question than the way you originally worded it. The way you worded it sounded like you wanted to find a way to convince them to be in a romantic relationship with you.

Anonymous

OP 1d

you can’t even legally drink and she’s 25. i wouldn’t want anything to do with you romantically either 🤣 if i was her age i would want a mature, confident man who has a good, stable career and has plenty of disposable income. those things are much more common in older men. you are closer to a teenager. your brain isn’t even fully developed. i’m not trying to be mean to you but yea.

Anonymous

#2 1d

Not convince but just looking for ways I can make myself appear as a suitable partner for them. If we are alr friends there is probably a couple of things I’d need to do to fill the gap between friend and partner. There is no way you can convince someone to love you but there are green flags I can have to atleast make them think about that possibility

Anonymous

OP 1d

We aren’t just casual friends we are much closer than that and our friendship is slowly growing more too

Anonymous

OP 1d

I would say the 5 yr age gap is our biggest barrier. She has somewhat of a maternal love towards me cuz she took care of me a lot when we were in school. But we also went on an unofficial date to watch the SB at a bar two yrs ago. So I’m just very conflicted b/c I can clearly see it can be more but she doesn’t see me in that light as of right now

Anonymous

#4 1d

Damn I’m 23 and because of health issues I’m graduating college late next year. And “plenty of disposable income” won’t be possible for me until I get my master’s for what I want to do, and I’m going to take at least 3-4 gap years after college before starting my master’s because it’s not going to be cheap and I’ll have to save up. And I’ll be living with my parents.

Anonymous

#2 20h

there’s plenty of people in the same boat as you. you’re fine

Anonymous

#5 17h

I’m happy w our close friendship but then it hits me that this could be everyday of my life. On top of that I can’t stop thinking about her even if Im not trying to🫩. It’s seriously affecting my dating life I was going on dates w another girl and I had zero interest