Anonymous #1 2w

I genuinely don’t think women understand

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Anonymous #2 2w

More than mediocre hard. Mediocre hard is how it is for ugly women

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Anonymous OP 2w

Have you ever spent any time talking to an ugly woman. Because the stories I’ve heard and the things I’ve seen men say to unattractive women make me disparaged for society

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Anonymous #2 2w

Despair*

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Anonymous #2 2w

How ugly u talking?

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Anonymous OP 2w

Irl? Below average. Not like disgusting hideous looks like a toad just like maybe not a traditionally cute face, bad skin, a bit overweight. Online? I see men harassing anyone who isn’t above average

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Anonymous #2 2w

Sucks for them.

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Anonymous #2 2w

I’m sure even they have guys who would date them

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Honestly same. All of my guy friends, who are just rly good decent guys are in relationships, good relationships too with kind and pretty women too. Of my female friends tho? all single except me and one other girl it’s kinda crazy

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Anonymous #2 2w

Exactly! I know exactly 2 men who I think could date who don’t. And this is entirely by choice. One of them isn’t interested in dating at all and the other is working on his mental health. Love my other male friends but most of them are not in a situation to date rn. But my female friends? Stunning, kind, genuine- they are incredible people and aren’t dating anyone, even with trying. It’s ridiculous

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Anonymous OP 2w

You are right they don’t. They are inherent differences between men and women and that’s ok!!

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

This is lowkey true Strawb. The more desperate you act the more unattractive you are deemed to the opposite sex

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Anonymous #1 2w

Exactly! Desperate people aren’t seen as attractive. Nor if people feel your only personality trait is complaining about the inequality in the dating market or whatever

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

R ur female friends lonely? Also, why are ur male friends not “in a situation to date”?

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yes many of my female friends are lonely, at least in a dating scene wise. My male friends are: dealing with bad mental health, focusing on college, recovering from previous bad experiences- a lot more. They aren’t in a position where dating would go well by any means of the word.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Tbf I have bad mental health, am pretty locked in college and was recovering from a bad experience when I got with my bf and I would say our relationship is wonderful and one of the healthier things in my life (though I have others)

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

I mean, my mental health isn’t great (lots of anxiety), but I think i’d be okay to date. Actually, lack of confidence and anxiety is essentially keeping me from putting myself out there, so mental health effectively is probably keeping me from dating (even tho I want to).

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Anonymous OP 2w

So you admire your mental health is holding you back but you’re also complaining about how hard it is for guys to get a date. Dude I empathize about the mental health stuff, genuinely. And I hope you can work past it. But it’s rly not fair to act like there’s some great big injustice in the dating scene when you’re struggling to put yourself out there. Again I have struggled with that and I don’t blame guys for the years I was alone

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Anonymous #2 2w

Idk if I’d be able to date even if I put myself out there more

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Anonymous OP 2w

Lack of confidence here is telling.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Maybe try to address that first then rather than lowkey blaming women? I understand anxiety but if it’s holding you back you gotta shelf dating aspirations for a minute and make some overall life changes to overcome it

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Anonymous #1 2w

Anxiety isn’t as simple as lack of confidence

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Anonymous #2 2w

It isn’t, but if you lack confidence you are going to feel more anxiety.

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Anonymous #2 2w

I specifically have a lot of anxiety around approaching and talking to women. I have never asked a girl out. It feels like my confidence is only getting lower the longer I go w/o dating experience

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Anonymous OP 2w

It feels like there’s smthg wrong with me, like I’m just not attractive to women. Dating apps didn’t help

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Anonymous OP 2w

I have this same problem you probably simply look unapproachable

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Anonymous #1 2w

Yeah. I would have less anxiety if I was more confident. And I would be more confident if I had dating experience

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Anonymous OP 2w

Fake it till you make it

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Anonymous OP 2w

I don’t have a lot of dating experience either

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Anonymous #1 2w

Have u been able to change that?

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Anonymous #1 2w

Yeah, I would have to fake it

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Anonymous OP 2w

Well there was this one girl I was in a talking phase with. Didn’t really last cuz we met at a party and I kissed her the same night I met her

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Anonymous OP 2w

She cut things off

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Anonymous OP 2w

Honestly haven’t really got over it. I still drive past where she lives when I’m driving to school and I look for her to see if I can see her again. But I’m on my university’s matchmaking thing so here’s hoping

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